"Meat Curtains" - Horror Story? Or Happy Ending?

Hi Shawna,

Sorry to hear about the name calling and other insults you received. I believe men like that are fundamentally insecure in themselves and lack a lot of real confidence. I've met a lot of guys who are blatantly crude and pretty stupid - some would come up to me and ask how much i cost and others would try and touch me - thinking i'd like it!!!!

I don't know where these names come from like "meat curtains" but i have to say that there is nothing better than a big labia to play with. My recent bf would suck on mine all day if we didn't have to work...eat...sleep...ummmmm well you get the picture.

I hope you enjoy success in slowly educating your boyfriend about how lovely you labia is xxxxxx

Asian Provocateur

Aww your letter nearly made cry;.( your story sounds just like mine-This site has helped me but Im only half way there-just the thought of opening up to a sexual partner/bf about my hang ups is scary business-just the thought of telling them makes me want to hide:(

Shawna,

Hey babe!  Great to hear back from you again!

I know you ABSOLUTELY have to remember me right?!?

I'm the guy who had the most to say in your posts way back when. .

Well, the first thing I can say is that I am truly impressed (is proud the right word) that you got over your little "non-existent" issue.

Unfortunately, the sad truth of the matter is, if you would have told this guy that you felt uncomfortable about the way your nose looked -- he would have used that to make you feel like shit, so it's not really about "meat curtains" like you keep saying.

It's about him trying to make YOU feel like shit.

Unfortunately, the people you've shared your most intimate experiences with, and the most detailed accounts of your personal life issues are usually the ones who have enough knowledge about you to hurt you the most -- but only because they are somehow "hurt" themselves by you, your actions, or something you said (in this case, you not giving him any pussy when he wanted some).

The sad truth is that MOST people are not mature enough to just outright say: "Well gee, it kinda hurts my feelings that you won't give me any pussy.  I definitely thought based on our history, I'd have a chance."  That's probably what he should have said, however, regrettably it came out as insults towards what he was after in the first place (or what I call a "foot in mouth" maneuver).

That said. . .I am kind of disappointed that you settled for a man who won't lick your pussy -- he can be the greatest thing since sliced bread, but if he's not doing something you want sexually, either you're going to be unhappy, or you're going to find someone who does.  All women choose one of those two paths.

I suggest telling him how you feel, and in the same sentence telling him how good it would make you feel if he licked your pussy.

I don't know how you women who obviously can find men who would be willing to lick and stick your pussy into oblivion end up with these guys who won't do it. . .

I am truly baffled.

Let me put it to you this way. . .my wife has large labia, and the woman I was with before her had large labia.

My wife is obviously MUCH more comfortable and confident with her pussy than most, and she uses it to her advantage on me when she wants to have sex.  She knows EXACTLY what to do to turn me on.  The woman I was with before her (I was with a lot of women before her, but the last SERIOUS relationship I mean) was REALLY self-conscious about her labia. . .

That is until I licked her lips, and boned her every which way possible, and told her how good her lips felt wrapped around my cock -- suddenly she was confident with herself again. =0)

If I was your boyfriend, you would have showered with me already, because my best effort would have been to tear your clothes off, pick you up and put you over my shoulder, and carry you to the shower.  Then once we were in the shower, I'd make sure you knew EXACTLY what I thought about those lips of yours.

It's not adding up for me. . .like I said, I am truly baffled by some of them you women who can obviously have ANY kind of man you want, end up with. =0)

Just my 3 cents, and like I always say, and have said many times in the past. . .it may not be nice, or mean, but you can always count on me for the truth, because the truth just is.  It's not good or bad, or black or white.  It just is.

- Eric

Shawna,

I'm so happy that you've gained enough confidence in yourself to be proud of what you have, and to tell that other guy to fuck off. It's too bad that he had to attack you in such a childish, hurtful way. just know that we're always here to let you know that you really are a beautiful person, regardless of what this guy says.

If you really wanted to take care of him once and for all I suppose that you could let it be known that he cheated on you with a very underage girl. I don't know what it's like up there, but here in the states that can literally ruin a person's entire life.

the use of the term meat curtains doesn't have to be so hurtful, I realize that it's intent was to hurt. But if you keep in mind that it's actually a pretty accurate visual description of what many men, including myself, and the men here, and very possibly most of the men you're likely to meet actually prefer in a woman, maybe, just maybe you can wear that description with pride. I know that I like to use that term with my lady when she's not being very lady-like just because it's dirty, and raw, and that just makes the entire situation that much hotter for both of us.

As for your current boyfriend. Many of us here have been very vocal about the importance of being open with your partner, having an open, obviously I don't know everything about your relationship, but if you were open with him you may find that he wants to go down on you, but doesn't really know what to do. you may also find out that he wants to but doesn't think you'll let him and is afraid to ask.

Or you may find that he doesn't want to eat pussy, any pussy. I hear that men like that exist, although the whole concept just seems so obscene to me.

It's obvious that he wants more intimacy with you. If you were to allow yourself to open up and allow it, you may just be surprised at what happens.

good luck. keep in touch.

Tempest. . .

I'm starting to think that either you and I communicate telepathically, or we share a brain. =0)

Your responses always mirror my responses, and mine yours.

I'm glad you and I think in very much the same way about most things. . .

- Eric

Thank you everyone for your replies they are very appreciated. And Eric I have not yet forgotten you, haha It has been a while but it has not been THAT long.  

I am not too concerned with the insults my ex had to say to me and I have long gotten over the past bullshit.  

As for "settling" I am too young and I have deffs not settled by any means. My current boyfriend is not quite as experienced as I am. And I find it hard to talk about things with him because I dont feel like he ever really quite understands (im dating a pretty boy, they arnt always the smartest). He knows my insecurities about it, and says I have nothing to be insecure about. Saying that, I have made attempts, went as far as putting his hand down my pants, but to no avail. He wont be down there for long, and he has done it before, but has never gone full out. I stopped giving him favours because of it, but when he asks I usually end up doing it anyways. Last time I asked what I would get out of it, in hopes he would get the hint. But all he said was that my time would come...  

On another note; I have this friend. Ive known him for a very long time and he happens to be best friends with one of my former love interests. He is younger, but alot like the men on this website. He has never been with a big labia but he wants to. During a rough patch with My current boyfriend and my ex situation, Nik was my go to person. I came very close to leaving my boyfriend for him. After talking alot, he started questioning my insecurities. After a long time of him trying to crack my insecurities open, I gave in and got his friend (my old fling) to educate him. It only sparked his interest more. He is the only person I have showed this website to because obviously I trust him with my secret more than I trust anyone. I go to him for so much, including talks about my sex life, or lack of a sex life. I know that if we were together that he wouldnt hesitate to go down on me or touch me but my only problem is his age. He is only a year younger than me but he too is still quite immature. And his age shows that not all young guys are ignorant about it. So ladies do not fear! They are out there!!

Tempest, what he did could very well ruin his life, but I could send him to jail for much worse if I wanted. Personally, I dont want it to come to that. But its very possible it could happen. As for "meat curtains", I have never seen it being used as a compliment. I suppose using it to talk dirty is fine if the girl is comfortable enough, I personally am not. Not yet at least. I hope that someday I can be as confident as your's and Eric's wives.

Hey Shawna,

Well my wife is confident as a result of me telling her how beautiful she is, and so on.

In reading your response, it sounds like that guy who's a year younger is the one you need to experience. . .

I'm not saying you need to be with him in a relationship, but I definitely think you owe it to yourself (and your pussy) to have a man really lick you good, and let you experience that.

Just my 3 cents. . .

Well whatever the case, I love it.

And personally, if someone wants to give it a dirtier name, that just makes me want it more, and dirtier.

I really appreciate your support guys. And Its deffs something Ive concidered. However on that note, my current boyfriend is wonderful and means alot to me. I dont want to throw away what I have with him for something sexual. So I guess time will tell?