big labia!!help

Hi Jenna,

It is true that some guys don't like big labia but is also tru that some guys do like them. Personally I had small-ish labia when I was about your age and then I met a guy when I was 22 and he loved big labia and told me how he liked to suck on them and pull them to make them bigger. I loved this and basically just opened my legs for him :)

You dilemma sounds quite different though due to college and peer pressures. All I can say as support and advice is to be confident about your body (all aspects). You have a pussy like all other girls and your labia is bigger like some girls labia are smaller and maybe even bigger than yours!!!

At the end of the day, from my own experience, if you are confident and love yourself and your body then this will certainly rub off on your partner (sex buddy).

Have fun, enjoy sex and be safe - don't let guys just slip it in. Look after yourself.

I hope all goes well xxxxxxx

Asian Provocateur

Hey Jenna,

Who would judge you??

I'm sure you can imagine that most of the men that come into contact with your lips, are not going to complain.

As far as turn-ons go, the person who would know best about what turns you is (you guessed) YOU.

When you have sex, guide the guy you're with in the right direction -- tell him what feels good, and how hard/fast/slow/steady/deep/shallow/soft you like it.

Communicating with your partner is not only the easiest way to get turned on yourself, but there are many men out there (I'm one of them) who are turned on themselves by a woman who is verbal about what feels good, and what makes her feel good.

Don't pay too much attention to what your lips look like. . .I've seen my fair share of lips, and even though I've been married for the past 10 years, before that I was pretty much a "man-whore" having been with more than 20 women by the time I was 21.

There isn't a pussy I've ever come across that I hated, or looked at and thought to myself: "Well, gee, that looks odd. . ."

What you'll find is that most men think EXACTLY the way I do about pussy -- they don't care what it looks like. . .but how it feels/smells/responds to them.

Go with that -- you'll come back a happy camper! =0)

- Eric

Casual sex is casual sex. I would not be too worried about college guys being turned off by your lips because by the college years guys are usually quite experienced OR have seen enough porn in their lives to know that all vag are different and there is nothing wrong with yours. I read in cosmo that guys only use half their brain, and girls use all of it? I dont know if thats true but the point of the article was that guys are alot less observant than girls are. So when us girls are analyzing ourselves and other girls and all the little things that really dont matter, most guys overlook them. Shes hot, shes not, shes so so. And being friends with majority guys Ive witnessed it. When I come out worrying about no makeup and hair a mess, they look at me like im crazy. So just next time you're stressing out about it, maybe take a breath and remember that he is probably more focused on whats going on in his pants, going into your pants to care that you have an abnormally pretty vag :) Stop stressing and start living!!

If you have any questions or just need to talk girl to girl you have my email. Im 19 aswell, Ive been there and learned. And Ive even found a few guy friends I can actually talk to about this!

Yeah Shawna,

I was one of those guys remember?? =0)

- Eric

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