Eric
November 4, 2009
K. . .
Well said.
I think you flamed tempest a
little too harshly though.
You do know he's just trying to
help right??
I'm not taking sides here, I'm just saying that
tempest made some good points, as did you.
At the end of the
day, tempest is like me, or any other guy on this website -- we all
love pussy, and although for you and some of the other women on the
site talk about pussy is "compartmentalized", I think for some of the
women, and most of the men on the site, it truly is something we
enjoy talking about, discussing, and helping where we can.
I
think what tempest is saying to say to you (of course this is in my
own words), without paraphrasing him, is that we all care.
We care enough to make you feel good about what you have, and to
let you know that it's perfectly natural (I'm so sick of the word
"normal" ergo, my use of the word "natural").
For me, I get
a "warm and fuzzy" feeling when any of the women on the site send me
a nice shot of their pussy (I get a "hard, stiff and throbbing"
feeling if the pussy in the pic is wet!) -- to me it's almost like a
small little sign as to say that my mission was accomplished. A
sign that everything I've said, and everything the other men (and
women) on the site have said, has collectively boosted the confidence
of this woman enough, to the point where she has no problem sending
some (or all) of us pictures of her most prized physical asset;
simply because she now realizes just how incredible it actually is.
So in retrospect, I think what I hear Tempest telling you is
that he feels like we've failed you (and I have to admit, I think I
share that feeling with him).
Now, I do have to tell you K,
I completely disagree with you on what you said about not talking to
your boyfriend about this face to face. Remember that emotion
and logic are two completely separate responses to something.
To you, the emotional response, is that he's going to take a
second look, or a closer look or not like what he sees, when in
reality, the logical (and most likely) response is that he'll explain
to you why to him it makes absolutely no difference, and that your
pussy feels so good to him (of course if that's true, which for the
sake of argument I will assume is true for him). I think the
main thing here is that it IS a big issue for you, and you're simply
too afraid or embarrassed to discuss it with anyone that matters.
I mean, that isn't to say the people here don't matter, but the
main person who does matter is the one who you're NOT telling.
Now, I do like the prospect of you eventually discussing it with
him, which is what you seem to have hinted at by saying it'll be in
your own time and in your own words.
My main point is that
in any relationship. . .for things to work, HONESTY has to be the
pivotal point in the relationship with which all other things
develop. In my experience, and in the experiences of other
people I've seen in my life, HONESTY later on in the relationship is
usually a day late, and a dollar short.
If in your shoes
(and I'm not in your shoes), I'd be honest with him sooner rather
than later. There is no "perfect" time to discuss things that
are important to you, especially when it comes to your own
insecurity/confidence and sexuality/or lack thereof.
If I
never see a picture of your pussy, and you told me you had "the talk"
with your boyfriend, I'll be just as happy!
Well, not
really, but close enough! How's that for honesty! =0)
Nothing but love for ya K. . .
- Eric
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