Dear Lola, you have learned an important lesson. Your instincts were right to begin with. Your labia is supposed to swell, your lips lengthen and thicken. That what women's bodies do when they get excited, just like they get moist and wet. That swelling means you are sexually excited, and it makes you more attractive to those who wish to have sex with you. As I have said before, there is no aphrodesiac as effective as an excited woman. Obviously, your lovers enjoy your engorged pussy. You should too. Disregard any of the naysayers such as the website you mention which demands you look like a little girl. They simply don't know what they're talking about. Most men, and many women far prefer what you have to offer, and to play with.