So Confused
April 24, 2005
I have long labia. I was always so self-concious about them. I came to
your site a few months ago, and loved it. My labia are not as big as
some of the other ones on this site, but I consider them to be larger
than what is considered to be "average." I did gain the confidence to
let my fiance perform oral sex on me, but I also insisted that it
would be in the dark. I am getting real comfortable with them.
However, a few minutes ago i went to http://www.vaginainstitute.com
and they really made me feel bad again. They described the "perferred"
vagina and labia size. "The inner labia should NOT potrude the outer,
and the clitoris must be small. The outer lips must be nicely shaped
with no wrinkles." it also said that 96% of men perfer smaller labia.
It was then that i lost ALL confidence. Is that site real? And do the
owners of this site actually love longer inner labia?
One
more thing... My fiance has only seen a picture of ONE pussy in his
whole life. I told him that it was playboy editing, and labiaplastys.
I showed him pictures on this website and told him that these are how
they are supposed to be. Sure, I might have tricked him, but i had to.
He then told me that anything on me would be beautifull. No matter how
it looks, it would be beautifull because its on me. He likes things
that are natural, he even admitted to being sad because his parents
circumsized him, because its not natural. That did boost my
confidence. And seeing your site again made it better. You should
really check out the "vagina institute." Honestly, i think its bull.
What about you?
Dear So Confused,
Please don't be so easily influenced when you read things on the internet. I know, nowadays there is so much contradictory information out there and it can all become very confusing, especially when you're younger.
I had somebody do some research and learned that the site you talk about is owned by someone in Mexico who simply looked for an original way to make a bit of money on the internet. Nothing wrong with that, at least not legally. He wants people to sign up for his website, which supposedly holds some data about vaginal and vulva measurements as well as about men's vulva size preferences.
Some of the information he represents has some truth to it. Like the fact that plump outer labia indicate youth and that they tend to flatten with age. But he’s got a wrong impression about the inner labia. He writes that the inner lips should not protrude past the outer vaginal lips and he bluntly states that "the entire male population" seeks women with such characteristic.
Likely though he is well aware that a majority of women have inner lips that protrude at the least a little bit beyond the outer ones. To state that men find this "unsightly" seems to be enough to create instant panic among the more gullible women out there, enough to get talked about on forums and web sites. Yes, even on these pages now.
He proves that the easiest and fastest way to be known on the internet is by shocking people. I've seen a few forums where girls are all upset about his insulting writings. They use words like "awful and degrading site", "This is sick! Disgusting!" Some even believe it is a scheme: "This is clearly a male plot to make us feel uncomfortable with our bits, in a desperate ploy to share the angst they experience over wondering if they're big enough!" They talk about the penis I guess.
There are also rumors that the guy started that site because he has been rejected by a lot of women in his life. It sounds a little far-fetched, but if it's true then you got to admit he found a clever way to take revenge. I mean, for someone to turn his grudge for women into a potential cash cow is quite an achievement in itself.
Because of his typos and terrible English grammar some think he's just a silly teenager who was pulling a prank. However, I'm quite sure he's an adult, and rather smart in fact. His English is bad because being Mexican he probably learned it just a few years ago, not because he is stupid... okay, he does make a few silly mistakes here and there.
For instance, the man keeps on using the word
atrophy where he means hypertrophy. Like in:
"Excessive length is considered an atrophy" or "vaginal
lips that are atrophied and project past the outer lips with excessive
length." Hypertrophy means enlargement of an organ, while
atrophy is a decrease in size. They are each other's opposites...
Even if he stands behind his narrow-minded concepts of vaginal beauty, the exaggerated way he describes them is more like a parody than anything else. Just look at these examples:
"Over half of the male population have asked their partner to cover their vagina from their view. . . . Many men do it because their partners vagina is simple not appealing to them one bit".
"Women with large vaginal cavities will tend to produce more odor then women with smaller vaginal cavities when vaginal funk arises."
C’mon, that last sentence is just too funny!
He came up with a few more sites like this, all dealing with the looks and image of the vulva. They are all nicely designed though and look kind of professional, with names that are very well chosen to give them a sort of pseudo authenticity. To make his sites look more believable he insinuates they’ve been around since ten years, while in fact they only exist since 2002. Okay, so what... the internet is full of lies.
Very interestingly, he also operates the sites labiastretching.com and femalepumping.net. In both of them he encourages women to enlarge their labia and clit! It just shows you that even this guy doesn't really have anything against big clits or long labia minora.
That stretching site promises to reveal the "secrets" to labia elongation for about $20 dollars. The second site talks about the advantages of using a vacuum pump on your pussy and you get to see a few pictures of women pumping it up, if you pay. I haven't read any of his so called labia stretching secrets. If they work, great! If they don't, big deal... So you lost a few bucks, like half of the price of having your nails done at the beauty salon.
Now, is he exploiting women who are self-conscious about their labia? I wouldn't call it that. If anyone is exploiting them, it's those surgeons who say you should cut off your labia if you’re uncomfortable with their size. None of his sites seem to link to any surgeons however. Yes, he sure is praying upon women's insecurity. Then again, with all these anxious women on forums worrying about their bodies and pussies, someone was bound to do it anyway. He saw an opportunity and jumped on it big time.
Even if some of his info is wrong, it's not like anyone is going to be broke because of him. People are spending more money than that on the dumbest things everywhere, on tv, the internet, in stores, you name it. Yes, maybe you’ll feel miserable after you visit his site but at least you won't have the look of deformed or amputated labia. Leave that task for the surgeons.
On another site of his he claims to have natural techniques that can give very wrinkled inner labia a smoother look, soften jagged edges and can even repair torn labia, all without surgery. If he wouldn't include his negative rants on long or thick pussy lips I would even consider advertising that site — only if the techniques work of course. I mean, heavily wrinkled labia are not "unfeminine" like he says, but if a girl wants to puff-up and smoothen her labia... hey, why the hell not.
So, all in all I do think that the site you mentioned is mostly bull. However, if you keep in mind that it's purposely written to challenge women and upset them, it's actually more funny than anything else. Think of it as an elaborate version of a troll.
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