November 1, 2005
I have read many letters on this site from women who feel or have felt saddened or hurt by things said to them by former lovers. It is unfortunate that when a relationship begins to faulter some people will stoop to violating the sanctity of the bedroom. My personal code is that whatever intimacy there was between two people is completely off limits in an argument. My personal opinion of such a person is that I can no longer trust them after that. For me it is the unforgiveable transgression. Anyone who has suffered this should be glad it happened. It gives you an insite into the other persons soul that you might not have seen until things were much worse. Move on. There are better people out there.
Thanks for that powerful message, I completely agree with it. Didi, Austinite, Genevieve, and all of you girls who've experienced it, ...this is not a cheap argument to just make you feel better about the situation, to get you over it. This is an awesome truth. It's so valuable that when you're in a relatively new relationship it's almost worth starting an argument just to see if your partner stoops this low... almost!