August 6, 2005
You have NO idea the shame and embarrasment that has come with having
a prodruding labia since I could remember. I elt like a total freak,
and needless to say, only allowed oral sex, after I was too drunk to
feel it anyways. Even then, I guided him, holding myself in a way
that I hoped he wouldn't notice. I've always felt SO insecure, and
the ONLY time my husband truely got a good look was during the birth
of our son.
In fact, I came across your site while searching for labioplasty providers here in town. You always hear guys use terms like "meat curtains" or "roast beef" sandwitch. Mine aren't even all that bad, but the only guy that I let REALLY go down on me, criticized my labia after our breakup. I was devistated! I've been SO insecure. I LOVE sex, but restrict it to positions etc where my labia are hidden. I've obsessed over it since I was about 12, and it's SO nice to find that I'm not the only one, and there is nothing wrong with me. Don't get me wrong, I'll still be insecure, but at least I know I'm not alone ;-)
Well, after all the mail I received from women like you, I do have quite a good idea of how bad you must have felt. Two things come to mind here. One, could it be that your ex chose to criticize your labia because he knew how self-conscious you were about it? And secondly, when guys talk about "meat curtains" and such, they often don't mean that in a bad way.
Take this random example: on the sex forums at PlentyofFish.com someone asks the question "Large meaty pussies or small meatless ones... which ones do you like the most?" The only guy who uses the term meat curtains says the following: "There is absolutely nothing better than chawing away of huge, meaty, pull tthm like taffy labia minora!! Gawd in heaven, I LOVE huge lips! I guess a "seam" just reminds me of a prepube girl - and that ain' sexy! To be able to tug and chew and lick and flibble and... the list is endless, what fun a couple can have if she has massive meat curtains."