Very good point!
tempest_driver
May 19, 2010
Ever since I started visiting this site I've heard several women give
their own reasons why they want to have labiaplasty, and they mostly
come down to a few arguements.
They rub and chafe my
clothes.
They get hurt when doing certain activities.
I (the
ladies, not me)think they look ugly.
They get in the way.
Someone teased me.
OK, I'll hit that last one first.
There are always going to be people who'll tease you for something.
For every guy who makes a remark about your labia, there are at least
9 that want to lick those labia. And every woman who says something
either has big ones too, or has small ones and knows her man wants to
have a full set of lips to suck on.
The other 4 points can
all be handled together with the same analogy.
I am a
man, so I obviously have a cock and balls. My dick is probably
slightly larger than average, not huge, but OK, I also have fairly
large balls. Together they tend to get in the way, there are some
things I can't wear because my balls or my dick will get pinched or
rubbed raw. And I'm sure that there are some things I wouldn't be
able to do without injuring myself.
I could probably
go and have them removed. Sometimes they really do get in the way.
And I'm really not all that wild about the way they look. I'm jealous
of women for that, I think that pussies are so beautiful, while men
have to have dicks, which are all floppy and funny looking.
So why don't I just get my junk chopped off? Well, I
recognize that as ridiculous as I find the appearance, Many women
actually like the way it looks. I don't get it, but I accept it. I
also know that If I were to get it removed, or even reduced, it
wouldn't be as fun for my lady, and it sure as hell wouldn't be as
fun for me.
So what do I do? I start by believing my
wife when she tells me that it turns her on when she sees my cock,
and I imagine that other women might react the same way if they saw
it too. then I avoid wearing clothes that are uncomfortable, and
doing things that hurt. And I accept that as much trouble as it may
be sometimes, I think that I'm better with it than I'd be without it.
I hope this made sense. t_d
Ann
May 20, 2010
Very good point!
May 20, 2010
Yes it made a lot of sense. I have often thought of this analogy. Imagine how men must have suffered a few decades ago when tight jeans were in style!
Shawna
May 21, 2010
Like I pointed out in another comment on another topic, I am a active
young woman who horseback rides, rides bikes, swims, models, quads,
etc. I also have larger labia than most of the girls in these
pictures. They are not HUGE but they are a decent size. I have never
experienced chafing or discomfort doing any of these things unless I
was attempting to ride a bike or my horse, commando (without panties)
in jeans. Or unless I was wearing a bathing suit that was too small
or tight. I find that these are terrible excuses. In rare cases YES
women feel discomfort but that discomfort can be avoided by making
small changes to your panties.
As for thinking it is
ugly, we all have something on our body that we thing is ugly. But
it's not about the imperfections, it is about overcoming them and
loving ourselves for who we are. Not what we do or don't look like.
If you can not learn to love yourself, how can you expect someone
else to love you? Sure I can be insecure, but for me personally, I
worry more about toning down for my bikini body than I do about my
labia popping out of that bikini. Why? Because I would rather look
good in a bikini and flaunt myself than hide and cover myself up
because I am afraid someone is going to make fun of my pretty soft
lips. Confidence is key. And it's not like it is my vagina everyone
is looking at. It's my face. Or in some cases the rest of my body.
But that is just not a concern of mine.
You have to be
comfortable in your own body. And only YOU can make yourself
comfortable. You do not need plastic surgery to be pretty. There is
this little thing called natural beauty. It is slowly dying in this
eccentric world we live in. But I have hope.
K
May 22, 2010
Shawna, I think you might just be really lucky not to experience any pain or discomfort bc of your labia.. While i have noticed that the material of the underwear does make a huge difference, i always have pain or discomfort. Even when i dont wear underwear, then the jeans just dig into them. I think it might also depend on the shape of the vulva. not just the size. Cus i have a rather big/long hood which makes my clitoris farther away from my body than some.. so its more of it being pushed on by tight clothing (jeans) than like chaffing.. in my case anyway. I also experience chaffing though. not to the point where you can see the redness on my vulva but.. to the point where the edges of my labia are irritated and almost burn .. my gynecologist recommended Desitin (baby rash ointment. Kind of works, not much though. And theres there the pinching, or the odd feeling of it either going to one side of my jeans or the other.. I even have friends whose labia are much smaller than mine and still have discomfort. So im totally jealous that you can do all that(horseback riding,etc) and not experience pain or discomfort.. Although the main reason i would rather have smaller labia is bc of the looks, the discomfort is more of a constant reminder to me..
Eric
May 23, 2010
Tempest,
Well said my friend well said. . .
The
only thing I would add is that yes, it can be uncomfortable to do
certain things with balls in your pants, but then like you I just
avoid doing those things, or wear some kind of protection (like a cup
or something) if I'm doing something that could cause me pain (like
paintballing or hockey which I play).
I think women should
try to see things the same way in that regard, since it can easily be
deduced that it would be an easy thing to work around in most cases.
If you know you have large labia, don't wear thongs that may
cause them to pop up if you intend to go bike riding later on --
different story if you're meeting a lover or your man later on for
some fun though!
I think all of the scenarios are
situational in nature, and can easily be addressed with some sort of
planning in advance or whatever -- just like us guys do.
Now
the ladies who think their labia are ugly, or whatever the case might
be, that's a different story -- I would just say, have a man lick
them first and experience that feeling before coming to a conclusion
about whether or not you should get them "reduced" or "hacked off",
since I don't condone either of those things. =0)
- Eric
Shawna
May 23, 2010
K, you mentioned that you get pain or irritation when you don't wear panties with jeans but why would you do that?! Jeans would hurt anyone without panties. And those minor irritations are a result of any vagina, men get them too (their leg might squish their balls or their pants pinch them) that will not change if you get surgery or not. But do you really want to conform and make your vagina look like a prepubescent girls? Is there any reason behind your dislike for the way it looks?? (I don't like the way mine looks but I am not going to chop it off and risk losing all sensation. That's just sad :( )
K
May 24, 2010
Shawna,
At what point did i say i was going to have
surgery?? I didn't.
tempest_driver
June 3, 2010
K,
Yours is a case where my comments about choice of
clothing are especially appropriate. You are a woman who has been
especially blessed, not only are your labia and clitoris very
pronounced, they are also very sensitive. By all rights you should be
enjoying an extremely satisfying sex life. We just need to figure out
what it takes to make that kitty purr. We've already gone through
your sex life at length, so I won't touch that again unless you ask.
But I do want to make an observation about what you've said about
your clothing. I can't think of any man who doesn't like seeing a hot
babe in a pair of tight jeans, but I see no reason that you should be
a slave to fashion if it hurts. I especially love ladies who go
commando, but once again, it shouldn't hurt. you might want to
consider jeans that are not so tight, and forget about the jeans
commando thing all together. Better yet, try wearing pants that are
made of something besides denim. and if you want to forgo the
panties, wear a skirt instead. that will make your labia happier. And
get all of our fantasies spinning.
XOXO t_d
K
June 7, 2010
Tempest,
When i wear loose fitting jeans or pants, it
doesnt feel any better. My labia are so long that the edges of my
labia still rub against the seem of the pants, which is almost worse
than the squeezing that tight jeans do.. Wearing a skirt without
panties would be ideal, but i can do that... I would be mortified if
somehow i flashed my cooch to anybody. Even if i had a "normal"
pussy, that would be really embarassing and kinda trashy.
Luckily i wear scrubs to work so its not that bad at work, but
anytime i get home from the store, or going out or whatever the case,
i always change into loose sweatpants with the lowest seam (crotch)
possible..
I know my choice of clothing isnt the best for
my situation but unless i wanna wear saggy sweatpants with the crotch
down to my knees all the time, i dont really have many options..
tempest_driver
June 9, 2010
K,
Ok firstly. I absolutely hate it when anyone refers
to any pussy as "normal". I truly believe that there's no such thing.
I know that you put it in quotes, and I appreciate what I think you
were trying to accomplish there But it still makes my hair stand on
end.
Secondly. It looks like your pussy will require
steps that are about as extreme as I will ever suggest. You may best
benefit by always wearing panties. even at home, just to keep from
chafing. I think that you are also one of the few women who should
not shave completely. I'm a huge fan of a bald pussy, always have
been from way back when it was rare and I knew nothing about pussy
other than that I thought that it came about as close as anything I'd
ever seen to proving that God did exist. But in your case I think
that you should have at least have a landing strip so that the hair
can protect your sensitive areas as nature intended.
Third.
OH MY GOD!!! I don't think you realize it, but you manage to
turn men all over this site on every time you describe why your labia
are such a nuisance. That was hot! I know how you feel about this so
I'm not going to push. But if you ever do decide to show off. I will
be ecstatic to be allowed to have a peek.
XOXO t_d
K
June 10, 2010
Haha.... Maybe one day...
Well, i rarely shave bald.. I usually
do have a landing strip. However, hair or no hair it gets irritated..
If i do have hair, the hair from my outer labia grows at kind of an
angle and pokes my inner labia which obviously hurts.. and if i shave
all the time, i get the irration and bumps most women get when the
shave too often. I usually shave every 4 or 5 days or so, (except
lately bc ive been going to the pool a lot.) My boyfriend really
doesnt seem to mind whether im shaved or not, except he does get a
little excited when i do shave cus he thinks it means im planning for
something... So. i dont really think there is an answer for
eliminating pain/irritation. The best option is just t shirt and no
pants or panties, which is what im doing now.My main reason for even
commenting on here was to dismiss the notion previously suggested in
this thread that women are just making up that they have pain and
using it as an excuse for labiaplasty when theyre really doing it for
cosmetic reasons which is definately not the case ( I dont even
intend to have labiaplasty)...
tempest_driver
June 12, 2010
K,
There you go again. That was kinda hot
Now, my
wife and I have been dedicated shavers for several years, and we've
learned one thing that is very important when it comes to shaving.
Short hair is worse than razor rash. I bring this up becuase I think
it may be relevant to you. In order for the pubic hair to have the
effect I was referring to you'd have to let it grow to full length
and it would actually have to grow down and around the vaginal
opening. I realize that this could be a pain (literally) for about a
week or two, but as big a shaving fan as I am, I'd rather see the
labes happy.
XOXO t_d
K
June 14, 2010
I see. I definately wont be growing my hair out completely though.. makes me feel even less attractive down there. Plus, it doesnt help with any pinching or irritation.. the hair doesnt grow long enough to cover the edge of my labia. My labia protrude a lot. It would obviously help with the shave bumps, but, other than that.. not really any other benefits. Thanks for the suggestions though..
tempest_driver
June 16, 2010
k,
well damn, ok that just means we'll just have to mean
that we'll have to keep working on this one.
As
far as growing your hair out making your Pussy look even more
unattractive...that would imply that your Pussy was unattractive to
begin with, which I doubt is even possible. But if you insist that
it's so I challenge you to put your money where your mouth is, so to
speak.(I don't know if you ever will, but I'll never stop trying).
XOXO t_d