Greetings to you. From reading your post, it's obvious that you are acutely self-conscious about your physical appearance.
As the wise and astute Labi has pointed out, in his brilliant response to "Small Labia" (see Post 2819 dated 10 Feb) ---"the luckiest people --because they are the happiest --are those who can accept themselves the way they are"
Now this acceptance does not come automatically, but over time, as one learns to come to terms with one's appearance.
If, as you have said, your body is 'PHAT" in all the right places, including labia and clit, then you can rest assured that there will be hot-blooded lesbian/bi-sexual women, along with most of the men on this site, who will be only too happy to get together with you, and partake of your succulent "goodies"
If you won't mind inter-acting with us, it would perhaps be useful to let us know in which country you reside, and perhaps provide an e-mail address, so that any interested parties would be able to reach out to you.
Don't worry, we are here for you, all the way. Feel free to reach out to the ladies, but don't forget us guys.