Sad turning into glad....tips?

Hey there,
I only recently became happy and comfortable with my pussy. It was always really hard for me to let my boyfriends go down on me, or see me fully naked with a shaved pussy.  
The funny thing is , is that I had never received any negative feedback from boyfriends, but I did hear the way other women talked about big labias and I remember being young and hearing boys talk about them also.
I'm in my early thirties now and let me tell you.....one night I just decided, fuck it! I'm just going to enjoy oral sex, whatever happens, i'll live through it. and the only thing that happened was a really incredible orgasm.
I've realized that self hatred is really fed by social conditioning.  
Start to love your body. because then other people will. i find people who are comfortable in their own skin to be a real turn on.  your bf will just be really happy that he gets to go down on you.  and being happy and comfortable with yourself is really sexy. seriously, nothing feels better than loving all of yourself! i hope you figure this out sooner than i did. don't miss out on all of the wonderful experiences your pussy, mind and heart deserve!

have fun!

Sad'

It is good that you are beginning to get glad now, and congratulations on finding a guy that seems to make you happy.

If you're still nervous just remember that there's no reason to let him at your naughty bits until YOU are ready, you haven't been with this guy for more that a few weeks after all.  

If he's as great as you think he is, he'll have no problem waiting on you, and when you're ready he'll be as much into your body as he is into you. If he turns out not to be so great, his loss not yours. and at least you'll know you didn't fuck the asshole.

best of luck,    t_d

Dear Sad,  You are getting the very best advice in the world from "I love my pussy".  She is absolutely correct in what she has to say.  I couldn't say any of it any better than she does.  Love yourself.  Enjoy yourself.  Believe in yourself.

hi glad and gladder,
lovely to hear from you again. as a body & sexual issues psychotherapist i can say that the more felt sense connection you establish with all your body the more firm sense of pride and self security you will have. bring grateful loving touch to your labia and every inch of you. breath fully as you do so.  
I really wonder about this idea, this fear virus that was started by perhaps fear and ignorance itself. the fear of being rejected for a generous labia. Certainly the emotion that you ladies experience is quite real. What I mean is the fearful ignorant rumors and talk that get passed around socially. Particularly by groups who know nothing about it, like young boys. Or by groups of women who may be locked in their fear to be authentic and ask publicly if it were really true. The more truth we lay on the line with each other between women and between men and women I think we see these illusions vanish before our eyes. and then it turns out in the end that what we feared was just the opposite. that we are really all quite turned on about labia and other things.  and thats what i notice happens here on this site. its so great. love to all, brer

brer,
thanks for posting your response. i've been consciously starting talks with my friends and co workers lately about labiaplasty, to see what other people's thoughts are and to use it as a platform to talk about our bodies and our perceptions. it's been interesting, and i believe that talking openly with one another brings about insight into our own beliefs and where they come from.  
so far, each conversation i've had has been really positive.  
i agree with you.  i think that talking openly and honestly brings an end to fear and let's us feel ok with ourselves.  which ultimately cultivates a loving and safe space for everyone. it's pretty empowering.

thanks to "i love my pussy"
may the goddess bring me a woman with a pussy & heart as large as yours.  
-brer

Sad,

Don't stress about it too much. . .

Put your "big girl" panties on (or I guess "take them off" would be more appropriate in this case!), and be confident.

Let this guy know that when it comes to your pussy, you mean business.

Tell him you want him to lick it.

Show it to him, and tell him what you want him to do to it (and to you). . .

If my guess is right, he should start drooling, and lose complete control of all brain function not related to pleasuring you with his tongue and his cock in less than 30 seconds (10 seconds if you're REALLY good at seducing him). . .

At that point, he will become putty in your hands (that it until he makes you cum, at which point it's YOU who will become putty in his hands).

The only thing sexier than a pretty girl with some thick pussy lips, is a pretty girl with some thick pussy lips, who is confident that she has what it takes to make any man to the "cleaners" once her pussy gets hold of him. =0)

Just my 2 cents -- hope it helps!

- Eric