Bloody ejaculate :/ HELP!

I have tried enother method where I had to use a spoon to rub against my G-spot and when I squirted it was mixed with some blood but since I was in the end of my periode I thought that it was just because of that and didn't think more about it. When I tried the same method again some days after I bleeded again so I stopped before getting to squirt. Some days after that, I tried with my fingers and again there was some blood so I stopped. I think that I just got a little wound from using the spoon first time so I haven't done it since to let the wound heal. But I don't think that it is the same because I haven't had any pain at all.  
Anyways I also think that it is important that you go the urologist now instead of waiting for your gyn appointment because of the pain you describe. Don't worry about the embarressment. It is not embarrishing to try to get G-spot orgasm/squirt, it is so normal!

K,

Okay despite that this eventually turned out to be a disappointing scenario for you, I have to say the thought of you in a chair pleasuring yourself is kinda sexy. . .=0)

Now for the serious part:

To me, it sounds like it could be a few different things, I don't know.

Maybe you broke some blood vessels. . .that "come here" motion they tell you to make assumes you know not to scratch yourself inside with your fingernails, and given the length of time, and with the veracity you were doing it, it sounds like you may have done just that, and "scratched" yourself internally.

When I finger my wife I make sure my nails are cut short, and trimmed well, and I give her that pressure with the tips of my fingers without "scraping" or "scratching" her internally (I use mostly the "ball fleshy tips" of my fingers).  It's more of a rubbing motion like how a DJ "scatches" a record. . .not really the exact motion of "come hither".  It is for this reason, I've always disliked that description.

I know it probably felt good, which is why you kept doing it, but the thing is that sometimes the immense pleasure you're getting can sometimes mask the pain that you would normally respond to in any other situation.

The other thing that comes to mind is that you may have herniated something -- the reason they tell you not to "push".

A squirting orgasm usually does require a bit of a "push" but it doesn't feel like a push. . .my wife has done it many times, and she tells me she "pushes" but that the "push" is involuntary, much like when a male ejaculates.  I feel the "push" if that's the word, of cum shooting out of the tip of my dick, but I don't actually have to "push" -- my muscles do that for me automatically.

At the end of the day, I am not a doctor, and while at best my response is conjecture, and mostly speculation, I would advise seeing your doctor. . .maybe sooner than that appointment you have, especially if you get the feeling they "didn't understand" how much blood came out and such when you called.

Either way, we're your "2nd family" here, so do let us know how it goes, because I'm a bit concerned, and I'm sure others are too.

- Eric

K,

I'm very concerned about this.
first off, you should have not felt any pain, and the blood, it it's not near your period is also a concern.

I personally would have had my wire in the doctor, either OB/GYN, OR GP, over a week ago, if there wasn't an opening, I would have taken her to the ER.

best of luck to you K,    t_d

A very little bit of blood can make a huge mess, and look like a whole lot more than it is.  So I don't see that as a big concern, since it stopped bleeing right away.  The ongoing pain, however, is another matter, and certainly needs to be looked into.  Some initial soreness of the muscles would be understandable, since you are strongly exercising muscles that are unused to it.  But that should have faded after a day or two.  An Immediate Doctor or hospital visit is in order here.  Good luck, and please let us know what's up with you when you find out.

Ann, It does make me feel a little better that you had an experience kind of similar but the thing is there was ALOT of blood. Like, when you see a girl squirt, it looked just like that but bloody, and it was more of a spray than a "flow" of urine cus i was still penetrating myself... It probly sprayed an area of my carpet about 2 feet long and like i said was dripping all down my arm..  :/
Eric, i really dont think i scratched myself simply because of the amount of blood, and also because it doesnt feel like that kind of pain, the pain feels nothing like a cut. Also, it came out when i pushed and came from my peehole .. Plus when i put my fingers in my vagina to see if theres any pain, theres not... and i think if i scratched myself i would be able to find the spot with my fingers... It is possible that i herniated something though. The pain i feel current is mostly a constant pain in and around my vagina or peehole, and the occasion sharp radiating pain that sometimes feels like its in my ovary and sometimes feels like its in my left ureter leading up to my left kidney.. i even have some pain in my back where my kidney would be which  also leads me to think kidney.. And sometimes when i take a step with my left leg i feel a pain down there on the left side, its so hard to pinpoint the pain and its different at different times which is why i think im going to have a hard time explaining it to a doctor and getting an accurate diagnosis.. I do also feel pain when i press around my vaginal opening, and i can feel like a ligament or something on either side of my opening that i never noticed before and when i press on them, it hurts... Im thinking that is just from the straining of pushing and from the muscles or organs or whatever it was that was putting so much pressure around my vaginal opening, so that makes me think that that part of it will heal with time.. its the internal stuff that worries me.. Im a major worrier and i just keep thinking that ive done something thats gonna fuck with my fertility,like injuring an ovary or fallopian tube, or that i severely damaged my prostate and wont ever be able to have a gspot or squirting orgasm, among other crazy ideas.. I wish i woulda just asked you how to have a squirting orgasm instead of a stupid website!

Tempest, i called my gynecologists office again this morning and luckily they said they have a cancellation for this thursday so im just gonna hold of until then and see what she says.. If i dont get satisfactory answers from her then im going to make an appt with a urologist.. In fact, i'll probably end up seeing a urologist too anyway but i want to be able to say that ive already seen my gynecologist... Unfortunately though, my gynecologist has a tendency to down play my complaints... When i go there, i always feel like she just thinks im a hyperchondriac or something, and granted, i worry  a lot but i KNOW my body, i observe EVERYTHING which is why im able to tell when something is out of the ordinary...  but shes the only person Ive ever been comfortable around bc of my labia and bc she told me before that she too has big labia.. However, this time i know without a doubt that my complaint is legitimate and should be taken seriously so if i feel like my concerns get swept under the rug, its time to find a new gynecologist!!  

Anyway, thanks everybody for your insight and for caring.. I will let you know how my appt goes on thursday! Oh, and im not sure what all of your religious backgrounds are but I strongly believe in the power of prayer and if any of you are comfortable praying, please pray for me, bc i cant help but think i did some major damage to myself :( Anyway, i appreciate everything.. thanks..

K,

Yeah, I'm really concerned.  Please let us know how it goes.

Also, once you heal up, I'd be glad to "walk you through" making yourself squirt -- it's a lot easier than you think, and should result in a gushing orgasm, not blood.

But you know this already.  Let me know when everything is good!

please do let us know how it goes, I really am concerned.

best of luck t_d

hi k,
thanks foe including us as a resource.
glad you are seeing your doc.
i also suggest you contact a teacher of FE who might be able to help.
her name is barbara sundahl. she is great.
www.isismedia.org/workshop_p2.html

also the sexological bodywork group.
www.sexologicalbodywork.com/doku.php?id=profession
which is also with institute for sexual studies. annie sprinkle and others.
they have a great vulva loving video 1 & 2
a really great resource.

do let usknow how it goes, i still hope for your pix someday -b

Thanks guys ...

Update..

Ok so i went to the dr. this morning and basically...... I'm finding a new doctor. First of all she had never even heard of a squirting orgasm so i had to explain it to her, the whole time shes looking at me like im retarded. She was rude the entire time, and didnt seem to take any of my complaints seriously. But anyways, about my pain... she did an internal exam and said i didnt appear to do any damage to any organs in there... which is a relief although i dont even know how much i respect her opinion as a doctor at this point... And she collected a urine specimen to check for blood and if its a positive result i have to do another one in 2 weeks and if thats positive she'll refer me to a urologist . I told her though, that a yr ago i had my urine tested and it was positive for blood , but according to my mom,  ive always had that since i was a baby and she said that my kidneys and what not were checked when i was a baby.. so if i just always have traces of blood in my urine, then i dont know how conclusive the urine tests will be. However this doctor told me that having blood in ur urine is never normal. So either way im probably going to end up at the urologist..
So as for why im going to be looking for a new gynecologist..... I orginally had an appt on the 8th bc i have a bump on my labia that ive been worried about.. doesnt really look like a genital wart, at least the ones that ive looked at online, but its been there for like 3 months, and it hurts, so ive been concerned. And its right next to my clit so anytime i get eaten out or play with myself it kinda hurts.. So anyways she goes "i dont see anything, thats just the natural contours of your labia"  Bitch, i know my labia.. you dont! I can definately see it, and feel it. Granted, it is basically the same color as the rest of my labia so i can see how she might think it was just part of the natural contour of my labia, but when i tell her im having pain and that it just developed a few months ago, as a doctor she should take it seriously.. As a nurse, it seriously bothers me that she doesnt take any of my complaints seriously. All she had to do to test it is put a specific acid on it and see if it changes colors, and the tech had already set it out for her but she refused to test it cus she insists its nothing.. ( Sorry, im totally venting right now, im just really annoyed) So i guess im going to have to see a urologist and if the muscle pain around my vagina doesnt go away in a couple weeks then im going to see a different gynecologist......  
So anyway.. thats the latest.. dont really have any answers yet other than i dont appear to have damaged my uterus or ovaries... I hope to have conclusive answers soon.

K,  

I'm sorry that your Dr. appt was so unsatisfying. I guess there are imbeciles in every group, It's a little unsettling that we still get to call the person who comes in last in their med school class "doctor". I hope that you find a good GYN your next time around.
It is completely understandable that you are so angry with the doctor, any unexplained pain should be taken seriously, and it appears that you have your fair share of that. In light of recent events, I'm even a little relieved that you still feel you can come to us to vent.

And I'm happy to hear that, for the most part, your lady parts seem to have escaped injury.

K,

Well, I think I have some mixed feelings about the outcome of your battery of tests and what not. . .=0/

In a way, I'm happy that it doesn't seem to be anything serious, but then on the other hand like you, I feel that maybe she didn't take your explanations as seriously as she should have.

It's no surprise that your GYN doesn't know what a squirting orgasm is, as my wife's GYN didn't know what it was either when we went right before she became pregnant with our 2nd child.  We literally had to explain it to her.  Seems kinda popular in the OB/GYN community that some just don't know what it is.

Of course my wife's OB/GYN got red and flushed in the face when we explained to her what it was (we were very vivid and detailed), so for us it was kinda funny to explain, and not really embarrassing, but then I guess each OB/GYN is different.

About the "bump" next to your clit. . .do you think that maybe it's a micro-abrasion??

I only ask because once my wife and I once had sex so vigorously in doggy style posish, that she developed some micro-abrasions on the outer walls of her labia, as did I on the shaft of my cock.

It was kinda tingly as a sensation for me, but for her it was a bit painful, and the OB/GYN explained what they were (granted she was also a little more involved and concerned about my wife than your OB/GYN seems to be with you), but they did go away after about a week, and she also suggested that even when we're going to have "quickies", as the sex that caused these "abrasions" was, she suggested my wife carry a little bottle of lube in her purse, since neither of us was sufficiently lubricated so to speak, since we were in a public place.

That said, I agree with your assertion that it might be time to find a new OB/GYN -- maybe your existing one is a bit too old-fashioned to understand things that occur in our age group, or maybe she just doesn't care -- who knows.  I doubt it's the latter, but even if it's the prior, I'd be just as bothered about it as you were.

Do keep me posted babe! =0)

- Eric

Well, i really dont think its a "micro-abrasion" since its been there for a few months and u said a micro abrasion will usually go away in a week.. plus theres no abrasion to it, its totally closed... Im starting to think its probably a sty.. Because i told my doctor while i was there that it kind of feels like a sty (in terms of both pain and what it feels like against my fingers when i touch it) - and i said that without even knowing it was possible to get a sty down there- and she goes " Well the only thing that helps a sty its a sitz bath but i know we've had you try those before"... uh wrong! I have never used a sitz bath lady, shows how well you know ur patients... Anyway, she said that it doesnt look like a sty to her.. she insisted its nothing. So ive been trying to take a couple of hot baths a day and let it soak in there rather than buying a sitz bath and i think it might actually be helping to soften it and what not...  

Also, my vaginal pain is almost gone at this point :) All except right around my vagina. Sometimes when im laying down it feels like pressure on it.. but much less pain that i was having a week ago. Im no longer noticing spasms in my ureters or kidneys like i was feeling before.. Sometimes i still have the back pain where my kidney would be but im thinking it might just be simply that, back pain. I have not yet gotten the results for my urine analysis but if there is blood in it, then i will go to the urologist.. havent decided yet if im going to mention my little incident or just let them check me and see if they notice anything wrong..  

Anyway.. thanks :)

K,  

Maybe this was mentioned above, but pain in the back/kidneys plus blood in urine or elsewhere is generally the result of urinay tract infections.  My wife just went through a serious one as she let it go too long before getting treated, confusing it with normal back pain.  Once a woman has had several urinary tract infections, they tend to be quite frequent and never really go clar up, resulting in a baseline level of infection with sporadic 'flare-ups'.  This could explain the persistent blood in your urine.  Good luck.

J

Hi J :)
Thanks for ur insight, however, im sure that i dont have a urinary tract infection.. i dont have any pain or burning with urination or a sense that i have to pee when i dont need to.. and my urine is clear and has no foul odor... Also, i actually just got off the phone with my gynecologists office.. they told me they accidentally had my urine cultured instead of just doing a urine analysis.. so basically, they checked me for a UTI on accident, instead of checking my urine for blood... And it mustve been negative for a UTI otherwise they wouldve told me and prescribed an antibiotic. Im not sure what the source of the blood was during my little "incident" as I like to call it, although i am really curious.. Im sure that it was caused by trauma as a direct result of the pressure that was created down there from pushing so hard..However,since im not really having any pain anymore, just a weird pressure feeling around my vagina at times, im not too concerned anymore. Once i give them another sample and they test it correctly, if that shows positive for blood, then i have to give another sample 2 weeks later, and if thats positive, which im guessing it will be, then i will go to a urologist...A doctor told me before that some people just have blood in their urine and its not a big deal, but this doctor says thats never normal... So maybe this whole situation was God's way of opening my eyes up to a medical issue that should've been addressed a long time ago.. I dunno.. Anyway,thanks :)

Hi K,

The bump sounds like a sty or a pimple. I've had one twice in that area and it was bloody painful. Did go away eventually.  

Maybe the blood and pressure you're now feeling is to do with a vein? While one of my friends was pregnant with her 3rd kid, she had this mighty varicose vein pushing on her vulva and vagina. I now you're not pregnant but in your horror story, you did mention pushing alot!  

Good luck with sorting this out!

Haha "horror story" ... I guess thats a good name for it too besides "my little incident"... Thanks, i didnt know that was possible but as i mentioned before, at first i could feel two "ligaments" as i refered to them, one on each side of my vagina and they felt puffy and when i pushed on them they hurt.. so maybe they were vericose veins.. havent felt them lately tho so seems like im healing up ...... Thanks :)