I second what Labi says ... :)
KT
November 27, 2009
I'm 18 and thinking about having sex with my boyfriend for the first time-I'm not a virgin (2 previous partners), but the guys I've been with before were really good friends with me before we hooked up and so I'd had the chance to be candid and open about my body before I ever had sex with them. So, when we did have sex, they weren't shocked by my labia at all-they knew the deal already. My current boyfriend has had seven partners before, and he's talked about a lot of different things about them that turned him off-but he's never mentioned long labia as one of them. Still, I'm really nervous. Should I tell him before we have sex? I almost feel like if I don't, and he just finds out when my clothes are off, he'll be more likely to just go with the flow. At the same time, I feel like that's dishonest. It wouldn't be so bad if he hasn't been constantly expressing his interest to go down on me-he insists on it and that's what really scares me, since my long labia would obviously be right smack in front of him. Any advice?
Dear KT,
Why would it be dishonest if you don't tell your boyfriend how your
labia look? It's not like you are some kind of freak or something, on
the contrary. Besides, I think it would be weird to him if you tell
him before. It shows you have an issue with them. Not sexy! So the
best advice would be to put your long labia... yes, right smack in
front of his face. 
K
November 27, 2009
I second what Labi says ... :)
Casey
November 28, 2009
Hi KT,
I am 100% in agreement with Labi Amore. And to add a
further sting to the game, you should wear a pair of sexy crotchless
g-string lingerie. Choose they type with 2 strings running the
length of your pussy leaving free access to your love hole through
the slit between the strings. With the pussy juices wetting the
strings during love play, your lover will find it even more erotic
eating the labia out. When he is ready to fuck you, do not let
him remove your g-string; instead direct his cock to slide in between
the wet strings and into the love hole. The tension created by
the strings would give extra friction to his cock giving him more
pleasure.
Enjoy.
Gerry Gillespie
November 28, 2009
Hello KT
I can do no better than endorse Labi's advice to you in
its entirety. The problem is that you DO have an issue with your
labia ----you are self-conscious with respect to their appearance.
The change has to come from within you. You must purge yourself
of all negative feelings about your beautiful vulva --because
it IS beautiful --so, why be negative about beauty?
Once
you replace your negative thoughts with positive ones, and they
become internalised, you can now stand in front of your mirror, and
not only see yourself, but ACCEPT yourself, as one who is
blessed and gifted with a heaven-sent endowment which is truly
a magnificent work of art and indeed a joy to behold.
Cheers
Gerry
The Marquis
November 28, 2009
Make that unanimous! Just go for it. He's made it clear what he wants to do. All you need to do is enjoy it. If he's so into oral, no doubt he loves larger labia. Much more to play with. Just try to relax and have fun.
brer
November 28, 2009
dear kt,
i really admire labi and if you are not sure you would
be ok with a less than great reception with with that approach then
maybe another might be to make sure you have a relationship where you
can express your feelings and needs. with that foundation you can
make a request. For me emotional surprises with clothes off are
challenging. and anxiety is a mood killer for sure. comfort and
safety are key.
you might just say that you notice than some guys
really like a generous yoni and others not so much. Tell him you are
concerned and that you need a man who is happy with a generous labia.
certainly feel proud of your endowment. Then make the request that
meets your need. This model comes from a proven method of
communication called non-violent communication. it can be a little
awkward at first but it really pays off i can promise you.
either
way , please let us know how it goes.
blessings, -b
Eric
November 30, 2009
KT,
Confucius Say: "Never come between a man and his meal. .
."
Even if that meal is your pussy! =0)
If he wants
to lick your pussy. . .let him do it.
If he's expressed that
much interest, he probably will be excited to be doing it in the
first place, and will likely not mention anything about your labia
being "large".
Especially for 2 reasons:
1) Your
definition of "large" is not necessarily his definition.
2)
He's had 7 partners. He's likely encountered lips like yours before.
If you want him to go with the flow. . .you should do the
same!
Let us know how it works out for you! =0)
-
Eric
mon
November 30, 2009
KT.
You should be proud of the body you have-especially your
womens bits.Boobs,hips,thighs,soft skin,tummy,pussy. Young guys are
just discovering what they like.So focus on blowing his mind...and
have him blow yours too. Confidence is the most sexy thing of all.If
you think your pussy is sexy then so will he,and make sure you really
truly enjoy yourself,that is also a total turn-on. Girls come in all
shapes and sizes there are millions of forms of beautiful,you are one
of them.
tempest_driver
November 30, 2009
KT,
Since your boyfriend has had several partners before
you, it's a pretty safe bet that he may have had one or more partners
with full labia. And since he's obviously a fan of oral sex, it's
also a pretty safe bet that he's a big fan of the vagina in general,
so there's probably not much danger of him rejecting you for that.
If you're still nervous about letting him go down on you, it
will probably help if you told him why, that way when he first sees
you there he'll already know what to expect, this way you know that
he won't be shocked when he first sees you, it may even make him want
you more. Additionally,when the time comes for you to give yourself
to him there won't be the anxiety you feel right now, which will
affect your enjoyment of the occasion.
Your choice, at this
point I really don't see an issue with honesty, just more of a
prudence thing for me.
take care t_d
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