want to satisfy my wife,but.

Hey buddy,

Well, you should try to locate her clit (short for "clitoris" in case you want to do some searching on the internet), and lick that with your tongue.

I'm not a woman (or your woman for that matter) so it would be pretty hard for me to tell you what will make her feel good.

While the clit is a good start, your best bet is to ask her as you do it: "Hey baby, does this feel good?  Do you like that??  How does this feel?" and so on. . .

Given the opportunity she could be the BEST guide there is for you. . .

- Eric

Mmmmm maybe she has hang ups about "down there" There are alot of us who were bought up thinking down there was a no go zone and it was dirty-its a hard thing to shake-but the best thing you can do is have a deep and meaningful with with her;)

I don't think there's much that a man can do wrong when he's got his head between a woman's legs....except for making it feel like a gynaecological examination! Or poking your tongue in and out of her vagina endlessly would also get rather tedious.  

I imagine Shell is right and your wife is still a little uncomfortable with herself. My advice would be to really show her how much you adore her and while busy sucking her clitoris etc say to her, "Your pussy is SO beautiful!" or "You have the most gorgeous pussy ever!"  20 years ago when I was 17, these sorts of comments were what made me give up any shyness I had towards my body!  

But like Eric said, your wife also has to show you what she prefers. What works with one woman is not going to work definately on another woman. The only thing which I think all women have in common is that we love compliments. ( Or maybe I'm just an attention-whore!)

Yeah Mic,  

It sounds like you're either REALLY missing the target, or she has some MAJOR issues with her naughty bits.

With the amount of info we have, I don't think there is a lot we can do to help.

I will say that you ought to talk to her and try to find out what's going on in her head.  

It may be that you're really doing it wrong. Or did something happen to her that has given her issues in that area. Or is she one of those ladies who just isn't that into you eating her out. I hear that there actually are some of those out there.

Is it just oral that she doesnt like? Or is it sex in general? Does she enjoy getting you off? Or does she just seem to have a general disinterest in sex? Bc if shes totally comfortable with everything BUT receiving oral from you then i would guess that its probably you're method of doing it..  
However, if i had to guess, i would say it probably has more to do with her being uncomfortable with you being down there, than it physically not turning her on. Maybe shes not very comfortable with her body, maybe she's wondering what youre thinking the whole time.. The mind really has its ways of keeping a girl from cumming. Does she tend to be a worrier? I know for myself.. im almost never 100% in the moment..and able to just relax and enjoy the pleasure. Part of me is always wondering what hes thinking.. Does he like my labia? Is he grossed out? Is he just pretending to like it? Do i smell okay? Is he getting tired? I bet his neck hurts about now.. he probably cant wait to be done.. i better hurry up and come. LOL i know it sounds retarded but these thoughts really do occur to me, and not just me, my friends admitted this to me as well.  
As Amanda stated above, there really isnt much you can do wrong down there... as long as you dont bite (too hard anyway) So my guess is its a mental thing with her.Do you tell her that you love her body? The best way to stop the mental blocks during sex is to just help build her confidence...Make her feel good about her body.  
I would also remcommend asking her why she doesnt enjoy it?  

Or maybe shes just embarassed to get into it. Some girls are embarassed to moan and what not.. It could be that she enjoys it more than she lets on..   Im not sure but you should probably ask her about it.. I wouldnt be too pushy tho.. only say/do what shes comfortable with and hopefully she'll gradually open up..

K has brought up some very good points to consider, and it is her insight into this bringing a woman's point of view into the matter that we might want to focus upon.

It really is astonishing how fast a woman's mind can switch off the mood if you say or do the wrong thing, and it just seems wrong how much more time and effort it actually takes to switch the mood back on.

My wife does not have a very positive self image generally, so when we're together I'm constantly telling her how beautiful she is, how sexy she looks. how much I love to look at her and go down on her, how good she tastes, and smells, how good her pussy feels and how tight her ass is, how good her mouth feels. when she cums I drink down as much as I can catch, or how good it feels as it bathes my cock and balls.  

vocalize what you think and feel. but only the good stuff. if there's something negative to say, I've always found it best to try to say it so it sounds positive, or constructive. And always after, NEVER during.

good luck man.

So a while back, i was trying to figure out how to squirt and i came across some guy on youtube and went to his website and signed up for emails. Oddly enough i just got this email that relates to this topic.. His name is Jason Julius.. Here is the email i  received. It might be of help to you.. and others on here who either have difficulty achieving an orgasm (particularly squirting orgasm) or getting their woman to achieve an orgasm..
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STRESS!

Yes, you heard me correctly.  Stress in the number one factor that
will inhibit any woman's ability to orgasm.

Hopefully you understand by now that leading a woman to orgasm
requires guiding BOTH her body (physical) and mind (mental) to
orgasm, however stress is like a poison that will prevent any
attempt at getting her to the blissful state of body shaking climax
that her body is craving.

Stress leads to tension in the body which restricts blood flow and
the flow of endorphins which are essential for achieving orgasm,
especially squirting orgasms.

Stress and anxiety also release nasty chemicals like Adrenaline and
Cortisol which act like an "anti-orgasm" cocktail that will wreak
havoc on her physically and mentally.

On top of that, stress will also hinder her ability to let her mind
go and be in the moment.  

Letting go mentally is one of the biggest hurdles most women have
that keep them from full body orgasms and if her brain is racing
with stressful thoughts about all her problems or insecurities the
last thing that is going to happen for her is an orgasm.

If your goal is to give her ground breaking orgasms you need to
understand this and eliminate stress as a factor so she can
completely enjoy her time alone with you.

Next time you are going to be intimate with her do the following...
 
1.  Take control and lead her in the bedroom.  

It's no secret that women want a leader in the bedroom.  Her time
alone with you should be an "escape" from the stresses of the outside
world. Women want to be with a man that they can surrender themselves
to and if she trusts you to lead her in the bedroom she will let go
completely.

2. Create a stress free intimate environment.  

Dim the lights or lights some candles.  Turn on some relaxing sensual  
music.  Create a clean, relaxed, distraction free environment that
instantly invites her to relax upon entering.

3. Give her a quick massage before you begin.  

Massage is perfect for relieving tension in the body. It also
increases Nitric Oxide which relaxes the blood vessels and increases
blood flow to all parts of the body.  Massage is perfect for giving
her  time to become deeply relaxed and out of her head.  This is the
perfect "in the moment" mindset she needs to be in in order to
achieve orgasm.

4.  Once she's relaxed roll her onto her back and stimulate her
using the "Bullhorn" technique that I demonstrate in the G Spot
Module of The Female Orgasm Blueprint.  

Make sure she continues to relax.  Her reaction might be to tense
her body and her breathing may become shallow.  

Keep her relaxed and tell her to only concentrate on taking slow
deep breathes as you continue to stimulate her all the way to orgasm.

Don't know the "Bullhorn" technique yet?  

Don't worry I'm here to help!  

I created The Female Orgasm Blueprint to show you the most
effective techniques you can possibly use to give her pleasure and
I would have to say the "Bullhorn" technique is probably the most
potent technique for getting her to squirt.

Pick up your copy of The Female Orgasm Blueprint NOW and get
her to squirt TONIGHT:

www.orgasmarts.com/blueprint.htm

There is some good points in that email. but I clicked on that hyper link and I was brought to the blueprint website, which to me looked almost exactly like about a million other websites hawking about a million different products. I swear they must all be hosted by the Internet equivalent of Billy Mays.  

I'm not going to say that it isn't worth buying, but when I see that same page layout over and over, alarms go off, my bullshit starts waiving, and I put down the Kool-ade and get the hell out of there.