Need Advice on reaching an orgasm!!

Don't sweat not cuming during intercourse.  Many woman do not.  Have you tried having your lover rub your clit with his finger while inside you....best done lying on his side or missionary?


Another way I have found works great is to eat my lover until she comes and then enter her and have sex for about 10 or fiftenn minutes and then pull out and eat her again until she is nearly ready to cum.  Then I re-enter her and I will cum soon and quite often she will too.  I have used this techinique on several women.

K,

This is a serious problem indeed and the solution really seems to depend on if you'd like to achieve clitoral orgasm from the actual sex itself or if you wouldn't mind... helping yourself or getting your partner to help you.  
If the former then I'd suggest perhaps trying sexual positions which open you up more, like perhaps missionary with your legs wrapped around your partner's waist so that it is more likely his stomach will rub against your clit. Also traditional on top with him sitting up as well will bring your bodies in closer contact and your clit has better chance f being stimulated. If, however, you do not mind some outside stimulation I'd suggest positions like doggie style, or either of the positions with you on top traditional or backwards cowgirl because these positions give you the opportunity to rub your clit yourself.
I might be able to help you with your pants problem though, I too had that problem until I began "tucking". What you need to do is get snug undergarments and literally tuck your labia into yourself as much as you can and then the snugness of the underpants will prevent the pants from pinching. The best underwear for this I've found to be cheekies.

Hellooo.
Thanks for the feedback. What im really wanting is to achieve a clitoral orgasm from intercourse itself. I have had one orgasm during sex and it was because i was "helping out" with my hand. I know that most females arent able to reach an orgasm during sex, but im really convinced that if my hood wasnt in the way, i could.. bc my clit is sooo sensitive and i get very wet, so if i could feel my clit slide along his dick as it  goes in and out, i really think i could cum. Im tempted to have surgery to make the clitoral hood like thinner or something so that even if it doesnt rub directly against my clit, i could still feel it. Also, the hood, to me, is the most unattractive part of my vulva. My lips are a lot bigger than others, but i feel like the hood is what makes it hang so low and protrude so much from the outer lips. If the hood was smaller and my lips stayed the same, i think  i'd be  happier with myself. My hood, well entire vulva really, is similar to that on pic 09.  
I prefer to be on top during sex because i have a tilted uterus and when the man is on top, he always ends up jabbing it and its very painful and just makes me nervous the whole time that the next thrust is going to  hit my uterus. Any suggestions on good positions for those with tilted uteruses????? I also think that the tilted uterus might be in the way of my g spot. The only times that ive had penetration that actually felt good have been with my vibrator and it has to be at an angle that i dont know is very possible between a man and a woman. Its so frustrating because i am SUCH a sexual person. I LOVE to give pleasure and i love to receive pleasure but  i have yet to have intercourse that truly feels amazing :(  
Maybe the solution is just  to experiment more. I havent had sex with very many people. And all but one of them were more concerned with their own satisfaction than mine... :/

Dear K,  I think you hit the nail on the head in your last statement here.  Your comments and difficulties seem to be rooted in inexperience, and in immature partners who, as you say, are more concerned with their own satisfaction, and cumming themselves, than they are with your pleasure and your satisfaction.  By immature, I am not referring to age, but rather to mental and emotional maturity.  I think when you find a more suitable partner, much of these difficulties will magically disappear.  In the meantime, I urge you not to even think about having surgery on your clit hood.  Firstly, the photo you mentioned is absolutely beautiful, as most here will attest.  Secondly, there is far too much danger in the kind of surgery you mention.  And most importantly, thirdly, all you need is to become far more confident in yourself and in your body, and to find more appropriate partners to enjoy it with.  There are all kinds of positions for you to experiment with in order to find one that's really comfortable for you.  Your comments make it sound as though perhaps there wasn't enough foreplay with your partners, nor enough attention to your needs.  Just relax, and try to  enjoy your body, and your partner, without getting all stressed out over it.

K, perhaps the "Coital Alignment Technique" (CAT) could be helpful, but I don't know if having a tilted uterus makes this position possible. Worth a look though: www.google.com/search?q=Coital+Alignment+Technique

One variation on this technique is the girl keeping her legs closed while the guy positions his legs outside hers. Very pleasurable for a lot of girls!

Thanks guys.. I appreciate the feedback :) as always..

K,

My wife had the same issue when we first starting having sex. . .she couldn't come from sex.

She loved (and still loves) my oral. . .I make her come EVERY time we have sex, and she sits there quivering for a few minutes after her orgasm, before she's ready to take my cock inside her.

But, what I've found with her (we recently discovered she's a "squirter") is that doggy style works best -- it stimulates her g-spot, and when I go slow (long, deep thrusts), rather than fast, rabbit like thrusts, it stimulates her more, and she eventually blows another 2-3 times while we have sex like that.

We've tried variations on this too, including her legs closed in doggy style (her legs on the inside, mine outside), and her legs open (my legs inside, hers outside).

She enjoys it MOST with her legs inside (her legs closed).

She told me that reason is that my balls smack her clit, while my cock touches her g-spot inside.

I know she's right because she usually blows about 2-3 more times from sex after I make her come orally first.

Usually she squirts too. . .she says she can't squirt from oral, but she squirts almost every time we have sex (which I think it very sexy!).

She's also been able to come/squirt when she's on top in reverse cowgirl.

I keep my legs open, and she closes her legs, and literally just bounces up and down on my cock -- the unfortunate problem with this position is that it feels so damn good, I usually beat her to the punch and come before she does!

Just so you know the exact details, my wife's pussy resembles this one:

www.sexylabia.com/pic40_flappy-cunt-lips.htm

She's 5'7" and weighs about 140 or so.

She has a nice big ass, in addition to a sexy pussy and beautiful labia (I can't resist a nice ass. . .it's like my Achilles' heel)

I am 6'0" and weight 225 lbs.

My cock is 8" or so, and is pretty thick in circumference (she says that's what does it).

So just thought I'd share that with you.

Now you can try to match yourself up right with your next sexual partner and if he can't give it to you sexually, then maybe you should tell him to give it to you orally.  Either way, you end up a happy camper after all is said and done! =0)

- Eric

I have to be in love to orgasm and feel very close to my partner. I don't think any woman can truly feel relaxed enough to orgasm unless she really knows the guy she's letting inside her body. I reckon one-night-stands just produce loads of women giving a great "show" of coming.

I can't stand my clitoris being touched directly. WAY too sensitive! Just pressure and rubbing "through" "on"the hood is great. ( Don't know how to explain that) I reckon that if you got your hood cut, you'd actually lose some sensitivity of your clitoris. Just like a circumcised man. Anyway, my failproof position is lying down on my partner. Rubs my clitoris perfectly, tits in his face and I can control the speed.  

I wish you lots of success and relax! Give up wanting to have an orgasm and you'll have them easily. I was also like you when I was younger...very sexual and determined to orgasm. Then I gave up and chilled out about coming and Voila! I'm an orgasm machine.