Deedra
August 12, 2005
I just found your website after doing searches for labia reduction
surgery. I've always felt ashamed of my large labia and often
wondered if men found me disgusting. The image I've held as a
beautiful vulva was one with very small labia - almost non-existent.
Once, a long time ago, a man I was dating mentioned that I had the
"biggest lips he'd ever seen" and then added, "and I don't mean the
ones on your face". I was so horrified that I never wanted to see him
again, not even thinking that it might have been a compliment. I
automatically thought of it as an insult and that's always stayed with
me as a painful insult.
Your site has opened my eyes to the
beauty of large labia. The women are so beautiful and sexy. I've
often searched for a site with pictures of vulva/labia to compare
myself with; other than porn sites, found nothing! I'd find diagrams
(more technical sites) and of course, the physicians promoting plastic
surgery with before and after photos with the Before shots always
looking similiar to me or having smaller labia than me; which only
made me feel worse about myself. The sites promoted the fact that
there's something wrong with women with large labia and women like me
should be out there having surgery to correct it.
Thank you
for your site. I'm so happy I found it and now maybe I can learn to
accept myself and get over my insecurity of feeling something is wrong
with me. I've never spoken to ANYONE, not even my husband about this.
Thank you for allowing me to see that women with large
labia are beautiful and sexy. I'm putting your site on my Favorites
list and will visit frequently in hopes that my own self image will
change and I will start to see myself as I see the women on your site.
I really can't thank you enough.
Dear Deedra,
There is a good chance that his comment about your big lips was indeed a compliment. He probably noticed your reaction and instead of explaining himself he just dropped the subject. Note to all guys: if you're ever in a similar situation try to show your love for her lips in words that cannot be misinterpreted!
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