April 24, 2005
I'm only a very young woman with experience only with my present
partner, whom is wonderful about the subject of my very pronounced
labia. He's extremely attentive, compassionate and fond of all
activities, be it amazing oral sex or just general experimentation.
However, I've long known that I wasn't quite... average in respects to
my anatomy. Despite his best efforts to see me entirely exposed, I've
always done a good job to cover myself, although I've described my
"situation" well and he says it makes no difference. I worry that
being able to fully explore my body in clear daylight would infact
turn out to be a turnoff. The vast majority of my dismay over my body
stems from a particularly nasty comment I stumbled upon while
researching -what else- Labiaplasty.
There was a forum present disussing how absured the proceedure was. Posts ranged from young women shamed about themeselves, to angry women fuming about how ridiculous the notion was, to men whom loved large labia as they were, to men who described large lips as disgusting. In detail. I'd say the opinion was about half and half, but one man said cruelly "girls with big gross lips are like an overused piece of meat." It was like a slap in the face.
I was shocked, hurt and most of all angry, seeing as I'd had very limited sexual exposure, was young, and certainly NOT permiscuous.
To this day I have trouble dealing with that phrase, and I have resevations about myself that are very unfair. I enjoy everything my pussy does for me, everything my wonderful boyfriend does for me, and it is very sad that one aesthetic element that seems so frowned upon has caused me so much greif. This site has helped me see that, no matter how you look, someone who appreciates you will adore you, entirely. The women you show are gorgeous, and I revel in the positive feedback you and your readers share. Thanks to this tasteful, sexually progressive site, I am beginning to appreciate what I have so much more.
Girl, if that guy knew how much grief he has caused you with just one little sentence... he would soooo happy! You got to remember that most people who write upsetting stuff in online forums are TROLLS! Their only goal is to shock and upset innocent credulous newcomers like you. Did you ever go to the Yahoo message boards? (PS. since 2006 these boards don't exist anymore in their old form, precisely because of too much trolling.) They're jam-packed with them! No matter what the topic of discussion is, they will find ways to antagonize and offend people in the hope of getting heated replies. Be warned, there's plenty of vulgar language!
Having said that, the author of your nightmarish phrase was probably honest when he wrote he doesn't like large labia. He may not like any kind of labia for that matter and might prefer the look of penises and nutsacks!? Or could he be just a teenager who hasn't touched any pussy yet? Or who says he's not some dirty old man* who particularly likes young girls, and I mean very young girls that haven't hit puberty yet. And maybe he is not a he, but a she? (*That's just a saying of course!)
Anyway, it doesn't matter a single bit. There is no good reason why you should let one person's anonymous insult get to you this much. Please, you got to be stronger than that and think beyond it. I know you're a young woman with very limited sexual experience and your insecurity about your pronounced labia makes you vulnerable. But try to shield your sensitivity while you're reading stuff on the internet, particularly when it's written by anonymous strangers on discussion boards!
There is one thing you really need to take care of ASAP: your boyfriend's desire to see you entirely exposed. As men we love to watch, even more than you women do. It's what really gets us horny.
TThe first time, you could just have a dim night lamp on, or better yet, a few scented candles! Make it a special evening that gets the two of you really in the mood. Why not start with a bubble bath together? You could show him short glimpses of your beautiful vulva under the water, a little more each time.
Next, cover yourself when you get out of the tub and head for the bed. Tell your boyfriend he will get to see the full monty, but only if he gives you a great slooow massage (with warmed-up oil, hmmm...) Lay down on your stomach and spread a large towel over your body. He could either start by your feet or by your neck, but the idea is that he slowly works his way up to your precious parts by gradually moving the towel away from your body, a few inches at a time.
I guarantee you that he will love what he sees. He's going to be so turned on that your pussy will need a few days of rest after all the attention it's going to get.