I'm sorry to hear that he hurt you so bad, it really was a hurtful thing for him to say. However, you did tease him too. Have you considered that what you said to him may have been as hurtful to him as what he said was to you?
anonymous
September 26, 2010
Well i was teasing him about his stinky ears, as he's got spacers...
and he said something like "shut up baggy minge"... and this really
hurt as it is something I have been really self concious about for
years!
I ended up crying and everything as we have been
together for about 4 months or so, and I thought he was really nice
and considerate as he has told me many times that he likes me just
the way i am and he doesn't care if i think i look rubbish etc etc.
I was really upset as I was only just begginning to
get over my insecurities about my large labia as he has even been
down on me before and not said anything.
When he asked
me what was wrong I said that I felt self concious about that, and he
said i was teasing him so it was okay for him to tease me back.
Its horrible because I liked him alot and I actually thought that
he didn't care about what my body looked like, but it just shows even
if you do have a nice guy he could still be judging you!
tempest_driver
September 27, 2010
I'm sorry to hear that he hurt you so bad, it really was a hurtful thing for him to say. However, you did tease him too. Have you considered that what you said to him may have been as hurtful to him as what he said was to you?
Oyster
September 27, 2010
Hi there,
Sorry to hear that your boyfriend upset you with
his comments about your large labia. Most 19 year olds aren't that
mature. He's probably very sensitive about his wingnut ears and
retaliated with the most obvious 'tease' his little brain could think
of. If he was really into large labia he wouldn't insult your
stand-out feature with that hurtful comment.
You
should read what glorious and sexy words the men and women on this
site use to describe large lips like ours and what esteem they hold
them in. What would your 'nice, considerate boyfriend' say if you
insulted his penis or his technique?
It sounds like
the two of you can talk and he obviously gave you his reasons for his
comments. But you should explain to him that he's knocked your
confidence big time about the way you look down there and it will
take a while to build it up again. If he's as considerate as you say,
he should take your comments on board (and if you're lucky give you
the licking of his life). If on the other hand he thinks it's no big
deal, (I was only giving back what you gave to me, blah blah) then
find someone who appreciates your wonderful assets.
Good
luck.
Jessica
September 28, 2010
Have you not thought he may be insecure about his ears? He probably
knows your insecurities about your "minge" as he called it and simply
gave back what you dished out, however that saying goes!
I used
to be insecure about my labia, but if my boyfriend said something
about my nose which I hate more than my labia I'd be equally as hurt
as him saying something about my labia.
Generally people with
larger ears etc, get bullied at school as I witnessed a few years
ago, so next time just think about what your saying because he may be
equally as hurt.
Just because he's a male doesn't mean he doesn't
have feelings!
tinkerbell
September 29, 2010
I want you to know that I just found this web site because I too am insecure with my size. I am now 38 years old and starting to realize my sexy beauty. A comment made to me when I was 16 by an old boyfriend has stuck with me ever since. I never even realized I was on the larger size until he said something very insulting. If you do anything, I want you to burn what he said out of your mind!!!! Take it from me, those hurtful words can be haunting and coupled with the way the porn industry uses only certain types of women (unrealistic women) can be very devistating to a young woman such as yourself. Yes, you insulted him, but if he were really into you and liked every inch of you, that thought would never have crossed his mind. (his hateful words were literally below the belt) I've been married for 11 years now and my husband who is my best friend thinks I'm a goddess and you deserve the same!!!!
Shania_lippy
September 30, 2010
Too many people carry the baggage of their bad experiences.
Tinkerbell is right in saying you deserve to be with someone who
adores you BUT it is a two way street.
You cannot put yourself
above someone you claim to love and think that when you hurt them
they must just shut up and accept that disrespect.
He
should not have made a comment that hurt you but YOU shouldn't have
made a comment that hurt him in the first place.
Any
relationship takes work and MUTUAL respect. Instead of running here
to try and paint your boyfriend as a bad and ugly guy, you should
have sat him down and let him know that you didn't appreciate his
comments and resolve the situation.
But EXACTLY like him,
you made a gut-reaction and did something not healthy (coming here
and bad mouthing him).
You even said how supportive and
encouraging he has been.
Plain talk, bad manners: you can't
be a jerk and expect to be treated like a goddess.
Jessica
October 1, 2010
If she was really into him she wouldn't of insulted him either? it
works both ways.
At the end of the day anonymous if it really
affected you that much and you're that peeved with him then just
finish with him and find someone else.
anonymous
October 8, 2010
well just for the record, i didnt just randomly start slagging him
off... we were teasing each other first just playing about as you do,
and yes i called him stinky ears, but if anyone knows anything about
flesh tunnels or spacers or whatever, saying they have stinky ears
isnt a very hurtful thing to say as everyone with spacers has stinky
ears, and obviously i didnt think he would take it so personally.
i was upset as he said something that hurt my feelings about
my own body, and crushed me where i felt most self concious, its not
like i was making personal comments about his body or his dick or
anything.
anyway, he's not said anything about it
since... but i won't be encouraging him to go down on me or anything
anytime soon.
October 8, 2010
I have to agree with Miss anonymous. Never knew about ear spacers, flesh tunnels or gauges until I read her letter. Apparently they do get really stinky if you don't take rigorously care of them: wiki.answers.com/Q/Why_do_gauged_ears_smell.