Hey Angry,
What is seems like re-soundingly the problem is
to me, based on what you said is that:
1) Your boyfriend
doesn't go down on you. . .
AND
2) He's lacking
some experience about how to make a woman cum.
Personally, I
don't know if his friend can offer you anything better, but I figure
it's worth a try -- worse case scenario, he does the same thing and
then you can eliminate him as a possible sex partner too in that
case. Guys your age generally talk a good game (I know because
I used to be the same), but lack the experience to actually execute
and follow-through.
I know I've been with women who have
told me that direct clit stimulation with my fingers especially is a
little "too much" for them, and they prefer stimulation through the
hood, or even by my tongue (which by comparison is a LOT smoother and
more lubricated than a finger).
I noticed all the things you
mentioned in your letter, but you never mentioned once that your
boyfriend licked your pussy -- sounds like he's a selfish guy to me,
and I'll apologize for saying this now, but I often say what people
are generally thinking but don't want to say, so here goes:
Being in love with him is no reason to stick around if the sex
sucks, and you've tried teaching him, and now you're just in a rut
with him.
Sex is important in any relationship, and if it's
sucking for you now, staying with him just because you "love" him is
only going to make things worse.
Your best bet right now??
1) Tell him you're unhappy with your sex life, and let him
think of ways to improve things (you can assist with this by telling
him what feels good to you, etc). If that doesn't work, then
you decide not to be with him anymore (since if he can't please you
now even with help, he's probably not going to be able to later on
either in all likelihood).
2) Tell him nothing and leave him
(probably not the best idea).
3) Tell him you'd like to have
an open relationship, so that you're free to still "love" him, yet
you can find a man who will fulfill you sexually even though you'll
be going home to him after all is said and done.
I mean,
that's just my 3 cents, you can take it or leave it, but trust me
when I tell you that honesty is always best in any kind of
relationship. =0)
- Eric