Well said, Labi.
gemma
May 5, 2010
I was wondering if anyone knows if there are any health services that
will pay for labiaplasty? It's not that i find it unattractive, it's
the fact that it makes me feel uncomfortable when i exercise. Mine is
like the one on the front page, pretty much a replica but a little
smaller so you can see how it would irritate me during certain
sport/exercise.
I hope you can help.
thank
you.
xx
Dear gemma,
I don't know if any health insurance covers labiaplasty, but how sad that you are willing to give up a part of your pussy because of some discomfort during exercising. Why not try to think of a less drastic way to alleviate the irritation? Unless I'm wrong, as long as the labia don't rub against anything and can't get pinched there won't be much discomfort during exercise.
If I were a girl, I would tuck them inwards, into the vagina. Sure enough I would quickly realize they don't stay in place while jumping around, so we need something to hold them there. Something soft, thin and pliable that is positioned tightly over the vulva and stays put. What about a pantyliner? Or a strip of cotton gauze held in place along its edges by soft medical tape? I think I would visit a pharmacy and search the aisles for anything that could be useful to this end. Then, using scissors, needle, thread and whatever it takes I would cut and fold and tweak and twine and not give up until I got myself something that fits nicely, stays in place and works its magic.
I know, it's easy for me to say, I'm a guy. Perhaps you believe that your labia are just not worth that much effort.
The Marquis
May 7, 2010
Well said, Labi.
megan
May 7, 2010
one of my favorite things is riding the spinning bike and feeling the
seat rub against my pussy. at first i saw it as discomfort, but
now i can *almost* have an orgasm just from the rubbing i get when in
spinning class. i bet no one else there knows how erotic i
think the biking session can be...
gemma, there's got to be
an alternative.
Shawna
May 7, 2010
PLEASE DO NOT DO IT!!! There are other ways to avoid that discomfort like wearing cotton panties because they do not rub against anything. I find that thongs make it harder to move around in comfortably and boy shorts (booty shorts) are much more comfortable. I would suggest trying something like this before you consider that horrific procedure. And please check the background on the procedure. Because some women experience pain during sex and some women just lose the sensation. I am 100% against labiaplasty. I horseback ride, swim, run, exercise and my labia is bigger than most of the ones on this site, I have never had any problems unless I am in thongs.
tempest_driver
May 10, 2010
gemma,
if you're looking for help getting labaiplasty, I'm afraid
you've come to tne wrong place, you won't find anyone here who will
help you destroy what sounds like a very beautiful pussy.
What
you will find are people with advice aimed at easing your discomfort.
Shawna's advice about wearing something that is not as toight against
your mound is very good advice, and I for one find boy shorts to be
much sexier than thongs, I Don't know why.
you may also want
to try out garments made of materials that don't pull or chafe as
much, or even going commando, my personal favorite.
And
Shawna, you just get hotter each time Ihear from you.
XOXO
t_d
A.F
May 11, 2010
Just think about guys that bike with their balls rubbing against the
seat they got to have it worse. I'm 22 and have been contemplating
getting surgery for the past few years and I keep on changing my mind
when I come back to this site. You should take a look at adult film
star Katie Morgan she is quite lippy. Made me feel alot better to see
a famous porn star with them. I find discomfort in tight jeans
more than anything and I wear skin tight jeans all the time but it's
not too hard for me to ignore the slight discomfort.
As for health services that cover labiaplasty they are non
existent. I live in Canada and talked to my doctor and you
should have seen her reaction she said "you think that is abnormal."
But they would do it for free in Canada if they are extremely
thick and long. Prices range from $3000-$7000 and there are two
surgery methods trimming and the wedge method which doesnt leave
scars.
Liese
May 12, 2010
I want to have mine cut, too.
I also don''t think that they,re
ugly or anything.
But they just bother me, they're kinda
annoying.
And they won't give me any godd feel during sex.
I
don't even like oral sex on me.
Sooo I think, Imma cut em.
tempest_driver
May 13, 2010
Liese,
just from observation I'm going to guess that you're
on the younger side, and therefore it would be natural to assume that
you've only been with younger guys. that said, let me get to my
points.
Wait a few years until you have a fully matured
image of your body before taking a step like this which id permanent,
and in most cases regrettable. you're thinking about doing this
because they are annoying, at the risk of sounding crass, that sounds
kind of dumb.
Since, I'm assuming, you've been only with
younger guys, none of them are even likely to really know what to do
with a pussy, so it only goes to reason that you've never had yours
properly eaten. Find a man who truly appreciates a woman, and who
truly loves the pussy and really knows his way around one, You'll
both be delighted that you have the labia that you have. Remember,
despite what is said here, eating pussy is not a natural act. It
takes years, and lots of practice to be able to do it right.
XOXO t_d
Liese
May 14, 2010
I will wait 'til I am 18 anyways.
'til then maybe someguy
can eat my pussy,
so I change my mind ;)
You know, the
annoying thing is really like a big problem.
Cause they hurt when
I ride a bike. They sometimes rub during sex so that the skin gets
rubbed off.
Tucking them in is the most uncomfortable thing ever.
They just.....kinda suck.
Eric
May 14, 2010
Tempest. . .
Ditto man!
I agree with everything
you've said, especially the part about eating pussy taking practice.
The friend who came to visit me in the thread I mention on
this site told me she really enjoyed the way I ate her pussy (she's
probably reading this. . .so *wink* to her -- see you in June/July
baby!). . .so I guess you can call me a bit of a pussy-o-logist if
there is such a thing!
My work? The study of pussy.
I can tell you based on my years of experience (okay, maybe
only the last 16 years then -- lost my virginity at 15, and am 31
this July) that you ladies have nothing to be concerned about --
there is no such thing as an "imperfect" pussy.
They do vary
in size, shape, tightness, etc. . .but in look -- they are all mostly
the same in the eyes of the human male. Okay, maybe we'll limit
that to the males that know what to do with a pussy in the first
place. =0)
- Eric
Jessica
May 16, 2010
Liese,
First of all how do you know your labia don't give you any
sensation when you have never had sex without them??
I have heard
from women who lost sensation after the surgery. you're going to
realize what you lost when it is too late!
I am sure you think
they are annoying because you are self-conscious about it and think
it is something extra. I have huge labia and don't feel discomfort
with them but if I sit down and really think about it, I will feel
them against my pants and if I hadn't learned to love them I'll get
annoyed about it. The problem is in your head!
From what you said
is obvious that you haven't learned to enjoy sex or haven't had a sex
partner who could make you feel good, because not liking oral sex
doesn't have anything to do with the size of your labia. you wouldn't
have liked oral sex if you had smaller labia neither. would you?
feeling your genital parts getting rubbed during sex is a good
thing and is the point of sex unless you are not aroused and
lubricated. If you are not into the sex and not well lubricated you
will feel inside of your vagina getting rubbed off too!
you're
not even 18 yet. You have a lot of growing up to do!
tempest_driver
May 17, 2010
liese,
As far as your problem with riding a bike goes. This can
be solved through an adjustment to your seat, or even by getting a
different seat. did you know that there are seats available that are
two pads that your ass cheeks rest on? They look strange, but they
have nothing in the center to chafe your labia. they're more
comfortable for guys too.
And as far as you getting rubbed
raw during sex. this is most likely a lubrication issue. And this
brings ys back to the boys you're banging. Don't just give it up to
the boys, make them work for it. If they can't be bothered to
prime you properly first they don't deserve the pussy. And if that
doesn't work for you, there are several commercially available
lubricants that will turn that painful rubbing into something
enjoyable.
just something to think about.
XOXO t_d
Liese
May 18, 2010
hey, tempest.
It's not like, they don't want to make me
enjoy sex.
It's just, i don't get the feeling, not even with
masturbation.
I guess, maybe I'm still very young and I don't
know what I like.
Maybe it just takes time. I'm only 16 yet.
But at this point, I feel like.
My pussylips don't give me
anything.
They don't bother me majorly, but sometimes they do.
They make me feel uncomfortable.
So I thought, that I would
let them be cut off.
Cause it's not the money.
Until now, I
still want them to be cut off.
Maybe My mind is will be changed
in 2 years :)
but thank you, everybody
Jack
May 21, 2010
Liese: You are expecting too much of yourself, you are only 16. It takes time to learn about your body and it takes more time to learn how your mental outlook can effect your ability to have an orgasm. Mutilating yourself will not make you have an orgasm, it could mean you will never have an orgasm. I dated a beautiful girl who had her clit cut off when she was 6 years old because her parents were strict Muslims. It was 20 years before she learned that a vibrator placed where her clit use to be would give her an orgasm. She has never had an orgasm by finger masturbation or by making love and never will. Look at all of the pleasure she has missed. Take time learn your own body and mind and you will find what you are looking for.
Shawna
May 21, 2010
It seems fairly irresponsible to be making those kind of decisions while being so young. This is the exact reason that most tattoo and piercing places will not pierce or tattoo someone underage. Because your decisions are not always rational and can be careless. What you want now may not be what you want in a few years. My best advice is to wait until you are at LEAST twenty. I speak from experience because I lost my virginity at seventeen and at that point I too wanted surgery. I am so thankful now that I waited. I processed everything all the pro's and con's all the hazards and I let it all sit for a couple years like people should do with decisions such as tattoos because it is your body and there is no going back. I think the sex problem may not be your pussy at all, I think it is probably just you and the boys you are sleeping with. Sixteen year old boys are not the most experienced. I didn't fully enjoy sex when I was that age but as it turns out it was the person I was doing, along with my insecurities getting in the way of my pleasure. I can not masterbate either. I can't stimulate myself. But as soon as my boyfriends hand goes even inches towards it I get stimulated. So do not give up just yet hun, I am only twenty (just turned twenty two weeks ago) and I speak from experience. Someday you will learn to love it. Because how can you expect others to love you if you can not learn to love yourself?
Eric
May 23, 2010
Shawna!
I'm so proud of you! =0)
- Eric
Liese
May 26, 2010
Where I come from (Germany) you can get labiaplasty with any age, I
guess. As long as you physically and mentally feel discomfort and
your parents give the permit, you can get labiaplasty.
Jack:
Clit is like sooooo different from labia.
Cause Labia
doesn't have many nerves as far as I know.
They do not stimulate
me at all, I don't even feel it, when someone gently touches them.
I only feel them, when they hurt.
Jessica
May 26, 2010
Liese,
"Labia doesn't have many nerves as far as I know". As far
as you know? Are you a doctor? I bet a 16 year old knows a lot...
Apparently you don't listen to anybody and don't even bother to
read what everyone so passionately is trying to teach you.
Oh
well...We'll keep our precious pussies, you go ahead do what you
wanna do, you lil brat...
Just don't come back here and cry how
much you regret it...
jack
May 27, 2010
Liese: I fully understand the difference between the clit and labia.
I think you need to be more patient with yourself. Spend time
learning about yourself. Learn what it takes for you to mentally get
aroused as well as physically aroused, when you put the two together
you will have wonderful orgasms. If you get wet enough you will be
able to move your lips out of the way when penetration begins they
will take care of themselves once love making gets more active. If
you are exercising try using baby oil on them first. When you find a
guy who wants to eat your pussy you will get a completely different
sensation. It will also change your mind about how they feel. Imagine
what we guys go through learning to walk, exercise, etc. with our
equipment which is much larger (in most cases :-) than your labia.
You can learn to do what you want, make love, etc with what you have.
If the surgery goes wrong imagine living a life with pain like a
constant tooth ache between your legs. It would hurt when you are
sitting, standing ie all the time. Not a good thing.
Don't
make any radical surgical decisions until you are 21 or older and
have had sexy many times. Then you can decide what is right for you
based on more experience.
Liese
June 1, 2010
Thanks Jack.
Eric
June 2, 2010
Jessica,
Ouch! Somebody's a little fiesty! =0)
Remember, she's only 16 -- we need to embrace how she feels and
help her to understand.
Calling her a "brat" probably won't
help the cause -- know what I mean?? =0)
Just my 3 cents. . .
Jessica
June 3, 2010
Yes Eric. I know I was frustrated. I just sometimes think why do we
bother to spend our precious time giving advice when some of these
girls come back nagging and saying the same thing.
I just thought
she might be one of those girls that when you give them attention
they continue to complain to get more attention. (I used to be that
way myself).
Anyway I am not that patient...
tempest_driver
June 5, 2010
Liese,
Yes, the labia are much different that the clitoris,
no one here will dispute that. Where you are wrong, and I think much
more wrong than many of the people here realize, is the importance of
the labia when it comes to sexual pleasure. In fact , it is generally
a bad idea to overlook anything between a woman's tail bone and her
navel when it comes to trying to give a woman oral pleasure. (Yes,
I'll even eat her ass if I think it'll get her off.) Anyone who has
any skill at eating pussy will tell you that when going down on a
woman, you don't just want to attack the clit, you want to eat the
whole pussy and just come back to visit the clit occasionally, and
even then, direct stimulation is usually a bad idea, especially right
after the woman has cum. And I think that many of the women here will
tell you that if her "licker" forgets this, the experience can be
more frustrating, or even painful than fun. I personally like to
spend a very long time with the labia, licking, sucking and chewing
on them until they get all puffy and very dark in color.
This is important when reading Jack's post about his ex because
FGM, although is usually intended to remove the clitoris, and that is
usually all that we hear about, very often involves the complete
removal of the labia minora. Jack. I grieve for what your ex has
endured, and surely still endures at the hand of her family's twisted
sense of piety and propriety.
Liese. I hope that one day you
find someone who cares enough about your pleasure to make you
appreciate what you have.