As you sat, your emberassment is ridiculous. The fact that you have large labia is NOTHING to be embarrassed about! You have a gift, as anyone of us here will tell you. Your boyfriend is a love for tolerating your insecurities about your labia. You can find, on this website, women who are proud to display their "dangling down " labia. Many men are desirous of these labia. You seem to have a pre-conceived notion that they are ugly. Lose this notion and be proud of them! You have what many desire, so stop being so concerned whether they are 'proper' or not. You have a gift, don't ever be ashamed of it!