Embarressed

As you sat, your emberassment is ridiculous. The fact that you have large labia is NOTHING to be embarrassed about! You have a gift, as anyone of us here will tell you. Your boyfriend is a love for tolerating your insecurities about your labia. You can find, on this website, women who are proud to display their "dangling down " labia. Many men are desirous of these labia. You seem to have a pre-conceived notion that they are ugly. Lose this notion and be proud of them! You have what many desire, so stop being so concerned whether they are 'proper' or not. You have a gift, don't ever be ashamed of it!

First of all. . .

Listen to your boyfriend.

Second. . .

Let him see your pussy.

He's already seen it regardless of what you might think (doggy style is really a good view of your pussy), and he loves it obviously.

You have no reason to be embarrassed, and please don't get surgery to fix something that doesn't need fixing.

please dont worry about that be yourself and let othes appreciate your assests. i have the same thing down there big labia but i am happy about. in summer i wear my white bikini and show what i have nothing to hide not even my clitoris.

hope to receive from you.
tc
nadine xx

Hello A,

You seem to understand perfectly well that the problem is in your head, not your lips.  And yet, you don't seem to be willing to give your b/f a chance, or to do anything else that will relieve your anxiety, other than consider labiaplasty, which is a terribly drastic measure, and will disfigure you for life.  I understand that you are nervous about letting your long time boyfriend see your genitalia, but surely that's not a strong enough reason to consider surgery.  Wouldn't it be far simpler to let your boyfriend see you, and trust in him that he loves you and will find you beautiful no matter what?  It seems that you are permitting your fears to overcome your love.  That is a very sad state of affairs.  I urge you to make a different choice.  All the letters and photos posted here should help you gain some level of confidence and enable you to give your boyfriend the opportunity to love your body just as it is.  Surely, your rational mind can see that.

Please let us all know how this works out for you.

Best Wishes,

The Marquis

You have to trust that your boyfriend is telling the true and that he obviously like your labia. He doesn't want you to get labiaplasty and he has been with you for two and a half years, do you think he would if he didn't like your labia? Even though he hasn't seen your labia I am confident that he already knows them, after all you do have sex and he can't awoid touching them or feeling them against his skin. My point is that it wouldn't make any difference if you let him see them because he already knows them and obviosly likes them. It would only make things better because being visual makes your sex life better. Almost every man on earth either loves large labia or just loves all pussy and don't care about the size so why don't you trust that your boyfriend is going to like what he sees?? Remember his statesments about labia reduction.  
You have to take a chance because if you keep hiding you will never get the chance to discover that you are wrong and that your large labia can indeed be a very possitive thing. You have to give it a chance to be able to shake away that shame because else you will always confirm yourself that there is something to be ashamed of instead of finding out what the world will tell you instead.
You don't know how to become more confident and therefore you have to start to act like you are confident and act like there is no problem because your confidence will most likely follow then and develope out of your new experiences.
Best wishes, Ann

A,

Having been around here for awhile, I understand that your labia embarrass you, I cannot however figure out WHY. I've said it a few times lately, and I'll repeat it to you. He can't be too put off by your pussy, He is still fucking it. I personally love big labia. And the idea of a well endowed lady in a bikini, and slipping out? Damn! Where's my wife?

Why don't go slowly at first, try a little lighting, just enough to be able to see each other. then no covers, then a little more lighting. before you know it, I think your confidence will grow. and you'll have him going down on you with the lights on and cumming like crazy.

XOXO t_d