December 22, 2005
I am 17 and have large labia where the outskirts are slightly brown.
At age 15 I was so worried by the discoloring and size that I went to
the gynecologist to see if I had an STD or if something was wrong.
She assured me that nothing was abnormal and that there was no
must-have size. Currently, I feel confused. I have been researching
labiaplasty but also looking up how some feel about being on the
larger side. I have low self-confidence about them and am quite
embarrassed. I feel like a boy and the "bulge" reminds me of a penis
and utterly scares me! I am also very sheepish about wearing bikini
bathing suits. It is not as though I wish to have sexual relations
with anyone nor does anyone else see it. But, I will want to when I
get married. I am afraid my future husband will be disgusted and that
I won't want him to see me in the light.
The women on your website with the same size as myself do not appeal to me as being sexy regardless of how well the copy may be written. At the same time, I thoroughly agree that G-d created everyone specially and carefully and that it should be treated as so and respected, not changed.
After reading a few posts, I see that some men may be attracted to the aspect of larger labia, but I feel as though they are few and far between. I believe because we are women, we must be small and have a slim and girlish figure look. I know some may feel this is a futile concern but it is important to me.
I think what I am looking for is different outlooks on the matter and other's perception on both sides for feedback.
Thank you for allowing me to express myself!
Your letter shows you are rather conservative when it comes to sexuality. In your case that is good as well as bad. The bad is that you expect women as yourself to be frail creatures whose sexual organs need to be hidden. The good is that you see each person as a creation of God and therefore shouldn't be messed with.
You are obviously the no-sex-before-marriage type, so the only person who will get to see your pussy is some future husband. If you have it chopped off he will probably never know about it, unless he is attentive enough to see the scars. If he is the kind of guy who doesn't like labia then nothing is lost. However, if he is the type who enjoys a succulent pussy he will be thoroughly disappointed with your mutilated kitty.
So why not leave things as they are for now. Of course, you could start putting some money away for a labiaplasty, just in case your guy doesn't like your pussy. It will give you the peace of mind that you have the means to change your looks any time you want to.
Most likely though, one day you will find yourself in a situation where a happy husband is continuously going down on you, drooling how lucky he is to have a wife with such big sexy labia. That's when you will realize that your well-developed pussy was in fact one of God's greatest gift to you.