Michelle, Far from a curse, your labia are a real gift. Your boyfriend loves them, and I'm sure he pays a lot of attention to them. All you have to do is relax, and enjoy the love and attention. As soon as you do, you will begin to discover the pleasures and the joy that your labia provide for you. You can't have that, until you accept your body and it's beauty, and until you become confident of how attractive you are. Obviously, your boyfriend has the right idea. You are just now taking steps in that direction. Go for it!