Questions for the ladies...

Hi K,

I have 2 kids. Both by caesarian. No my labia didn't change at all. I imagine though that during the pregnancies my vulva would have become extremely dark. My nipples did so I assume that my labia did as well ......I'm not in the habit of staring at my vulva all the time!! Plus it's kind of difficult to look past a big bulging tummy!!After the pregnancy and breastfeeding, my nipples went back to normal as my vulva must have done. Length of my labia certainly never changed. My sister and best-friend who both gave birth naturally also told me that their labia never changed, just their vaginas of course! But after about 6 months even their vaginas returned to "pre-pushing out a watermelon" size or almost.  

Sorry, I can't help you with your tilted uterus. Maybe you need to find a less well endowed partner! The males will be thrilled with you...no pressure to impress!  

Just wanted to say too that I loved the discussion you had with Eric and Tempest. Most entertaining. Your arguments were brilliant, as were Eric's even though he's wrong. He'll make a great politician one day. Very persuasive, convincing but still just plain wrong. I agree with you 100%. I also sincerely hope that you'll be able to chill out and embrace your beautiful, exotic, and erotic female flower (power) some time soon.

LOL.. Thank you for taking my side on that.. I had the same exact thought you did... he should have a very successful political career ;)

Thanks for your input about pregnancy/labia... Did you sister and mom have "normal" sized labia to begin with? Or were they well endowed like you?
 
Unfortunately, i dont think penis size makes that big of a difference.. ive been with a smaller guy and it still hurt :/ The thing that ive noticed seems to make the most difference, is the amount of teasing and foreplay ahead of time.Apparently, when you're getting "worked up", you're uterus actually shortens and moves out of the way a little.. so the more time you give your body to prepare for upcoming sex, the more it moves out of the way... Doesnt always work though:/

I too hope that i will be able to completely embrace my body one day and not care what others think.. and so far the approach im taking with my boyfriend is working. I gradually mention things about my labia to my boyfriend , but not in a negative light- not telling him how insecure i am about it like Eric and Tempest think i should... My boyfriend tells me he loves my pussy and that i have a hot tight pussy, but the day he tells me he loves how big my lips are, i want it to be genuine.. and not because i told him im insecure about it and he's just trying to make me feel better, ya know? Of course you do.. You're a female, you get it!

Amanda,

I'm sure you can agree with me that HONESTY is NEVER wrong.

At the end of the day, K and I agreed to disagree.

I think HONESTY is best ALL the time, everytime, without holding anything back because you think the "time isn't right".

K does not agree, and obviously you don't either. . .

But without opening up a "can of worms", just tell me you'll vote for me darling, and we'll be like peas and carrots! =0)

- Eric

I know you posed this question for the ladies here K, however my wife had a problem with a tilted uterus at one time, and her health care provider was able to make it shift back into a better position, I hope that helps.

Also, I do believe that childbirth did have an affect on my wife's labia afterwards, but more importantly, while she was pregnant, my wife's labia were extra succulent, and her vagina was extra soft, wet, and warm. It was almost enough to make me want her to be pregnant forever, just for that.

Wow, Tempest! The way you described your wife's vagina during pregnancy sounded delicious, even to me!

K, yes my sister always had big labia minora. As to my Mum...I have no idea and certainly do not ever want to find out!! We just don't have that kind of mother, daughter relationship.  

Eric darling, if I was American I'd certainly vote for you. I don't think America is ready for you yet though. Look at all that drama over poor Clinton's blowjob. Mind you, I would never have thought that Obama had a chance. So you never know. Another 10 years and perhaps Americans can actually let a politician's private life really be just that. Private.  

Actually I do believe in being honest. But I also know that if I would have a partner who would just bleat and moan the whole time about how unsatisfied he is with some part of his body, I'd find this a MAJOR, MAJOR, MAJOR turn off. AND, after having my attention drawn to his supposedly unattractive part, it's quite possible that I would then find it unattractive too! If however my partner thinks he's a sexy beast without being arrogant and vain about it, just plain confident, this is a huge turn on. So that's why I'd never recommend somebody to be "honest" and confess their insecurities. To work on your insecurities in private is not what I consider to be dishonest.

Sorry for the rushed reply, K, but in a word, yes my labia did change.

I have 3 children.  My labia is bigger and darker now.

HTH

X(0)X

Tempest,  
How did the health care provider shift her uterus?? My doctor told me there was nothing that can be done about it and that hopefully after childbirth, my uterus would shift into a normal position..

Thank you Amanda!!!!!!!  

What they don't seem to get is that if i were to expose everything im not comfortable with about my body to my boyfriend, I would be working AGAINST what i've been trying to do for years, which is have others know that its NORMAL and shouldnt even be a topic of conversation... Why would i point out negative things about big labia to my boyfriend when in my  opinion he's probably  "on the fence" about it.. Now, i know from comments he made before he ever saw me naked that he at least at one point did NOT like big labia, but im thinking and hoping that his opinion is changing more and more the longer we're together.. so why say or do anything to back track that?? Its retarded... And THANK YOU for pointing out that my not mentioning it to him is NOT being dishonest.. thats probably what pissed me off the most about Eric and Tempest.. them repeatedly calling me dishonest.. which to me is one of the worst insults..

I don't know, I wish I did though. she told me that her HCP told her that her uterus was tilted or or something similar and that she was able to manipulate it so that it moved into a correct position, and that EVERYTHING was more comfortable after that. Also, and this may just be a coincidence, but getting pregnant was very difficult and always ended in miscarriage before then, afterwards she was able to enjoy sex, and she got pregnant twice with no issues at all.

It is possible that your doctor is completely correct and it was a different issue, or that it was all in my wife's head. But I kind of think that this just might deserve a second opinion

K,

I can appreciate you not liking to be called dishonest, and I apologize if you felt like that was the tone of my message.

At the end of the day, you think not telling him is the best thing, while tempest and I think the best thing IS to tell him based on our experiences with our wives of so many years.

Regardless, this is obviously a glass "half-full" versus a glass "half-empty" conversation, in that it's simply a matter of perspective.

Like Automotive pioneer Henry Ford said: "Whether you think you can or you can't, either way, you're right!"

I'll leave it at that. . .

- Eric

K

I know you don't have the highest opinion of me right now, and for that I'm truly sorry. I have always spoken my mind, and it has often gotten me into trouble, but that's just the way I am and I can't change it.

I'm bringing this up because we had a dispute last month and I get the feeling that it led to some hurt feelings. you said that you were done with it, but it keeps coming up so obviously someone isn't done with it.

Eric and I observed that perhaps you were not being completely honest with your boyfriend, and I feel that maybe he deserves better than that. You keep saying that you aren't being dishonest with him, but but what you described earlier in this thread is something that I usually refer to omission, no you haven't technically lied to him, but you haven't been completely forthcoming either. Call me crazy, call me old fashioned, I won't come out directly and call omission lying, but I make no distinction between the two either.

Tempest. . .

Totally with you on the "deception by omission" thing.

My wife and I used to get into little arguments about that kind of stuff all the time, and now we don't because we both realize that if it is "prudent" information, it should be discussed, period.

Sometimes we over-indulge one another with un-necessary information in fact, but I'd rather be informed, than wondering.

In a relationship, I don't believe there is a such thing as too much information. =0)

- Eric