Not to worry. You are perfectly normal, and he obviously you just the way you are. Turn the lights on and let him enjoy you, and you relax and start to enjoy yourself. Just take a deep breath and to it.
Kristy
July 27, 2009
ok I am 18. I just started having sex with my boyfriend like a month ago. There is 1 problem. I am freaking out. we haven't sex with the light on yet. We have had sex with the sun coming in but that is all and only in the dark because I never ask to turn on the lights. I keep worrying if he knows about my long labia or not. I have asked him if my vagina is normal and he says yes. He has even pinched my lips before with my pants on and I get shy. He always says lip lips but I don't know if he means my labia or if he thinks it is just normal vagina lips and no long labia. My labia sticks out past my outer lips. He mentioned something about my labia but still I don't know if he really knows about me. I feel different and worried. What do I say to him? should I tell him about it or do you think he knows? He said he has never seen a girl's vagina before until mine. what is he finds out I am not normal. I know vaginas come in different shapes and sizes. I said they do and he said you could have a fat one or a small one...but does he mean labia too? I am confused and worried? What should I do to him about it? Does he really know? I want to show him my vagina in the light and stop hiding it. I am scared he may think I am weired. Would he know it is normal or not? We are in love and have been dating for 8 months now. I love him and he loves me but I am worrying. Help!!! I want him to see me without being insecure.
The Marquis
July 27, 2009
Not to worry. You are perfectly normal, and he obviously you just the way you are. Turn the lights on and let him enjoy you, and you relax and start to enjoy yourself. Just take a deep breath and to it.
Kristy ( it's me) again
July 27, 2009
help!!! someone help before I freak out even more! Has anyone been like me before in this situation?
The Marquis
July 28, 2009
Kristy, Many women have the same kinds of anxieties that you are experiencing. You are fortunate that your boyfriend apparently loves you. The only way for you to get past your anxieties is to overcome them, to expose yourself to your boyfriend, to see the joy and love on his face. Isn't that so? After all, you will feel the way you do, all worried and upset, until that happens. The more you worry about it, the less you can relax and really enjoy your sexual life. Give your boyfriend the chance to appreciate you.
K
July 28, 2009
Hello..
Yes ive been in ur situation before. And the way i dealt
with it isnt the way im going to recommend you deal with it. i was 17
and a virgin and had been with my 1st boyfriend for several months. i
had told him there was somethign about my body that i really didnt
like and wanted to change. So i had him watch Dr. 90210 with me. The
episode was about labiaplasty. I couldnt actually find words to say
it myself cus i was so embarassed, so i just sat there and cringed
while we watched together, peaking over every now and then to see his
reaction. He basically told me he didnt care and it wasnt an issue.
But he was very sexually inexperienced and probly didnt know what was
"normal" or not. And in the back of my mind, i never really knew if
he liked,diskliked it, or didnt care either way. We're no longer
together now but our relationship lasted for several years and
he since has texted me telling me how much he misses it. HOWEVER,
your situation is a little different bc you've already had sex with
him and kind of had conversations with him about it... So basically
.. he already knows!! My best suggestion at this point is to act
totally confident about it. Turn the lights on. Look him in the
eyes and tell him exactly what you want him to do to you and your
lips... Even if you're not feeling confident in the moment, fake it.
It'll will be hard and your mind will be racing im sure, but just
follow through and see how it goes. Since you've already told him
about your insecurities about it, tell him you've come to the
realization that its sexy and how much of a turn on it would be to
watch him pleasure it. I think you're worrying too much... the man
loves you.... enjoy him and enjoy your body, its the only one you've
got.
lilly
July 28, 2009
100% yes!!! really dont worry (even though i did just like you!) i
remember speaking to him about my worries, and never let him see me
down there...ever, then thank god found this site which made me
realise i was normal and made me look at my pussy in a totally
different way, which built my confidence up a lot..i kinda had the
attitude well...if he doesnt like it i KNOW now that there are plenty
of men that do, so teased him by showing him one night and honestly
his reaction was like he was told he had just won the lottery
or something! lol
it still plagues me from time to time
wether he does actually like it, but i think thats just natural, were
never 100% happy with what we heve i guess :)
The Marquis
July 30, 2009
Lilly, As you said, your boyfriend acted like he had just won the lottery! How much more can you ask for? I hope that Kristy takes the good advice from you and from K. Experience counts.
bluegirl
August 3, 2009
You keep saying your not normal....thats not true....you are normal
and so are woman with small labia...we are just the lucky ones to
have large ones
I watched a tv show recently called "the
perfect vagina"
they did this thing where they got loads of
woman to have moulds taken of their genitals and you know what the
majority of the ones they showed (moulds not the real thing) had
large lips....so are we the minority or the majority...think some
people just don't want to talk about it and the media(porn etc) push
tiny ones......I have been married for 14yrs and together with him
for 19 and we still have the most amazing sex life and he loves my
pussy.....
Don't get too hung up on it and worry about him
not liking "it" sounds like he does like it to me
keep
smiling and be proud x
Kristy ( Me)
August 5, 2009
Thanks everyone! I talked to my boyfriend and he said he alredy knew even though he hasnt seen it in the light. He said guys love it! He loves m the way I am. He think my pussy is sexy.
bluegirl
August 5, 2009
see thats great....:-)
Keep smiling x
yana
August 7, 2009
I'm really happy for you!! Now you can really enjoy your sexual relationship without worrying about it.
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