normal labia?

To the original poster: sorry but I have changed your name from "K" to Kiki. Someone else is posting under the name K already and it would for sure cause confusion. Hey, it's just an alias anyway. I think Kiki is cute and it is often used as short for names beginning with the letter K.

Kiki,
From my own experience, relatively wide spread, I think it's about an even split.  Of course, given my preference for larger labia, maybe I just find those women who possess them.  I have always felt that they are a sign of hightened sexuality.  Certainly, I seek that sexuality in women.  So it could be that my selection process finds those women automatically.  Whatever the reason, about 50/50 has been my experience.  It has also been my experience that those larger labia are not only a pleasure to behold, they are great fun, and, in my experience, have been the sign of that higher level of sexuality of which I spoke earlier.  You do seem to be making some progress in accepting your body as it is.  I would hope that you keep at it, keep reading the encouraging letters here, keep talking to your bf, and eventually come to love those wonderful lips that you have been blessed with.

Allow me to point out that "normal" is just another word for average, the land between nowhere and obsurity, you must try to imagine "stardom" and then live with it ! ........

Mr "S"

Kiki and Others; We are all dramatically varied and genitals vary as much as any other body part. I think for some reason, some people, for some reason focus on some body part and make it into a big issue for themselves. They think it's too big or too small or what ever. I don't know if it is a personality trait or some event during a person's life that triggers this? You really only have two choices. Listen to others especially those closest to you (Like a lover) and learn to live with it or change the body part if you can. Now don't take this as a suggestion that you should have surgery. But you have to ultimately ask yourself if this is so hard to live with that you are making yourself miserable. If you are then you are wasting you life! So in this case consider the surgery. I never thought I would say that but you are adults and it is your body. Now having said this, I would suggest anyone contemplating surgery to really investigate it completely before making a final decision.  

From a personal standpoint I would like to talk any women contemplating surgery out of it. But in the same breath, I hate to see people waste their lives. For some people it doesn't matter what is said to them to reassure them that we like you the way you are.

Kiki, I just read your letter and felt that I had to reply.  I am a 35 yr-old attractive woman (I call myself cute/attractive these days because I'm finally learning to like myself) with large labia.  At this age I've grown comfortable with my looks but I STILL feel self-conscious about my labia.  Let me just say first that there is no such thing as a "normal" vulva; they come in all shapes, sizes, and colors.  My girlfriends and I have sat up nights drunk and complaining about how "weird" we think our labia look.  I began hearing cruel terms like "beef curtains" when I was 19 and I've even contemplated surgery myself.  I am writing this, however, to let you know that far more men love large labia than you may think.  I've had three serious relationships and lots of lovers, and all but two of these men loved my body.  Most of these guys assured me that my pussy was beautiful and when it came to giving me oral sex, they just couldn't get enough.  I recently dumped a guy who wouldn't give me head because he hated my labia, but he was quickly replaced by a guy who can't keep his mouth off of them.  You are always going to hear negative talk and cruel terms about large labia, but, rest assured, for every guy that hates them there will be ten guys who will want to give you head until their tongues fall off.  There's nothing wrong with you; I've found that having larger labia means more pleasure for me once I get turned on.  The more comfortable you are with your body, the sexier you become.  Sure, I still feel self-conscious when I sleep with someone new or when I hear terms like "roast beef lips" out of people's mouths, but my feeling these days is that if you don't like my body step aside because there are plenty of guys who do (and will).  I've found that the more opened- minded and less sexually inhibited a guy is, the more likely it is that he'll be cool with large labia, which is fine with me, because who wants to have sex with or date a guy who's close-minded guy with hang-ups in the sack anyway?  NOT ME!  Love your body; it's amazing and capable of lots of amazing things.

Well said Nikki Grace :)

Hey Kiki, the question of how many girls have big pussy lips, what percentage?? this is always an interesting question particularly for us girls with full lips!!
Look at Februarys letters at number 2258. This is an interesting post by a man who discusses this exact question!! How many!! I think you'll find it interesting and whether his reseach is scientific or not I think he is probably right....about a third of girls. But the point is for you and other girls who do or have done (as myself, but not anymore) felt that they are strange, unusual or even deformed in some way, that in fact, its really alot more common than alot of us girls realise....so what are we getting so upset about?????
As Mr Salesman says above....'Normal is just another word for average, the land that lies between nowhere and obscurity...try to imagine stardom and live with it' - Thats a great line!!! But actually girls with big lips are normal enough to feel ok.....and different enough to feel very proud and extreamly lucky to be one of the third blessed with our big juicy lips!!!!
Enjoy them!!!!

I dont know. I have a hard time believing that about a third of women have really big labia. For one, i work in the medical field so i see nude body parts on a pretty regular basis, and ive never noticed it on anyone. For two, ive mentioned large labia to guys that i know and they didnt even know what i meant when i tried to describe it... . although those particular guys are probably somewhat inexperienced in that department. I also have a lesbian friend who i asked about it and shes never came across lips as big as mine. To me, it seems like 10% is probably a more accurate number but then again.. its all relative. I guess it just depends on the persons experiences. One person might have 100 sex partners in their lifetime and come across 100 big labia and another could have 100 sex partners and come across 0. I guess its all just the luck of the draw....

It certainly is not one third here in the UK Louise, I sure as hell wish it was......."X"

Mr "S"

Thanks for all the kind response.. especially Nikki Grace.. although i'm still feel a bit confused about what is normal, at the same time i'm accepting not to worry so much about what 'normal' is. we are all special in our own way, no two people's personality will be exactly the same, and neither will their body.. i know this is true.. i still have a long way to go till i fully accept it. but i'm a lot closer to it than i've ever been before. thank you everyone who has replied. i just wish there was so many people as accepting as you all... xx

Mr Salesmanship and Kiki,
The question about numbers....how do you really know that its not one third?? You work in the health profession K so of course you get to see lots of pussies on a regular basis? and how many women have you actually had MrSalesmanship from the UK??
I asked my doctor once when I was thinking of having surgery myself, how common big lips were and I will never forget his look which was genuinely reassuring...looking at me over the top of his glasses, he said 'A lot more common than alot of you girls seem to imagine and realise, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you and my advice is to think very carefully before you consider surgery'...He wasn't in it for the money as he was my very nice, down to earth GP!! but the point is I just knew from his reaction that he had encountered lots of big lips!!

As far as people being accepting and open minded about big lips... I think that probably most people are but how do we know because how often do we bring up the topic of conversation, of a normal day, that revolves around big pussy lips???  
Thats why this site is so good because it allows both men and women to discuss their fears/fetishes!! and particularly for women who are obviously at odds with their lips...its great to know that you are not alone and that so many guys love big lips!!!  
The problem with having big lips is all in a womens mind, believe me I've been there!! X