I'm still a virgin, but I don't really feel that afraid about how it
will be to show my dangling labia to a future boyfriend. But I feel
the same way as you about being naked in front of my female friends.
When I was in school and we had showers after gym, I used to be very
self consious, because no one other than me looked this way. So I
used to try and hide it the best I could.
I've also heard other
girls talking about longer labia in a negative way, which was the
first time I really started thinking about mine.
I agree
with you and hope it will be more common to speak about it. Perhaps
in sex education the students could be told that also the labia might
grow as well as the breasts. Maybe I remember wrongly, but I dont
think it was ever mentioned at my school.