Dear Ribena,
I can totally understand how you are feeling.
My ex-husband thought big lips were gross and unattractive.
Maybe that's one reason he is my "ex." :) Would you
care about your boyfriend more or less if his penis was slightly
deformed or too big or too small, or circumcised or uncircumcised?
If he really loved you, he wouldn't want you to change. I
suggest you change boyfriends. I have struggled for years with
a bad self-image because of my ex-husband. As you can tell from
this website, there are many men who find big lips attractive, sexy
and a turn-on. I would suggest trading up on the boyfriend
issue. If he is that insensitive to your needs, kick him to the
curb. :)