try having a shower and perhaps a shave then dress up in sexy undies and surprise him. or buy one of the adult games for couples and bring it out one night. as for touching his penis, it is something you will have to work on or he will feel neglected or unworthy of you attention, how would you feel if he said he didnt want to touch you? Just be yourself, and at the end of the day you have to be true to yourself or the relationship wont work.