scared
April 12, 2005
hello...............i dont know how to start this
letter.............but this site is really wonderful.......hmm...couldnt just say enough.may i should say it like
coming to a therapist...........
i a muslim 29 years old girl...........hav long dangling lips... our culture dont allow
premarital sex.....mostly our parents seek out guys for us....so we
hav sex after marriage normally...............
til now i was all
scared to death bout my long hanging lips.........what if the guy
doesnt like it.........i even thought of going abroad for the
surgery..........did alot of online surfing bout the
surgery........went to see a doc.but he said not to hav the surgery as
this may cause scarring and later painful intercourse...so i was
really depressed...............but i am not worried now..........i
thought i was the only unlucky girl with these nasty lipss...........but now i know i am not alone...........much
releived.but what if the insults me on my first night??????????that
would hurt a lottttt
Dear scared,
We all feel sometimes that life isn't easy or that luck is against us. Our car needs to be fixed and we have to take the bus for two days, or maybe we spilled coffee at work and have to walk around with a stain on our shirt for the rest of the day. These are silly examples, but that's exactly my point. Far too often we lose track of the important things in life and spend our time bickering and complaining about insignificant, petty things. Meanwhile we take our good fortunes for granted.
Like for instance: the good fortune to have the right to choose the person we want to have sex with; the freedom to choose the person we will get married to and spend the rest of our life with; to have the right to engage in premarital sex; or the liberty to decide whether we even will get married or not...
That's what I thought about while I was reading your letter. It made me forget for a minute that we're talking about labia size here. We're all supposed to respect each others cultures and such, but I do have a hard time understanding societies that limit personal freedoms. Women should have the right to choose, and the right to drop any man who doesn't like something about her... in an instant.
Yet there you are, a sweet girl that lives in such a strict society but who is worried like crazy about the size of her long labia. The contrast in magnitude between both issues you're dealing with touches a soft spot in my heart, almost saddens me. Unlike women over here, you don't have a say in who you're going to share your future with. If a woman in our society isn't happy with her body—something is too big or too small—she can always choose a partner who either doesn't care about it, or who likes her exactly for it.
I'm not worried though about the reaction of your future husband towards your long labia. If he is like most men he will either not care about their size or—especially if you keep your pussy neat and fresh— he'll find them irresistible. I'm more concerned with him being compatible with you intimately and sensually. I hope the two of you will be able to develop a loving relationship where you can trust each other and tell each other your intimate feelings and desires.
You used to be depressed about your big lips. Now, thanks to your curiosity and research on the web, you got to accept them. Soon you will love them. What's important is that you keep your newfound confidence and carry that into your marriage.
So observe and admire your pussy every day. Look at it from different angles, in different positions. Maybe try shaving it and see if you like the look and the extra soft touch. Feel and caress your pussy, pamper it, play with it. Masturbate while you look at it in a mirror. Condition yourself to associate the size of your labia with sexy feelings. Love your pussy, taste it, this is your body. Think about how a man would touch and taste you and how he would get aroused by the look of your long heavy labia, the way they dangle, the way they feel.
With time there will be thousands of people here who read your letter and think about you. Many among them will be men and most of them will be drawing a picture in their mind of how sexy you must be with those long labia. If worst comes to worst and you get married to a man who doesn't like your labia, then let these men's silent thoughts be your inspiration and fortitude.
And you know, I think plenty of these readers would love to hear from you in the future. So will you write again one day?
Update:
"Scared" did write back! Read her response
here.
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