Smart-too-late
March 27, 2005
Back in the 60s, when I was newly married and before the sexual
revolution, I had no idea of oral sex. That came some seven years
later when I finally got up enough nerve to ask my wife if I could
kiss her "down there." She hesitatingly said yes and I quickly found
in my mouth a most generous portion of soft, warm and sweetly moist
tissue. My tongue was searching for the head of her clit -- I wanted
her to have the orgasm of her life -- but I was having difficulty
finding it as two large flaps of tissue kept interfering. I actually
had never seen her pussy close up as we always had sex at night under
the covers. Not knowing exactly what I had found, I simply began to
suck them into my mouth. I would then tongue them, first together then
separating them, inserting my tongue between them. I felt her hips
rise with the pleasure. These flaps of skin were so soft and as I
played with them the idea came that I could expel them from my mouth
by gently blowing. It worked... out they went, then I
immediately sucked them in again. Out and in, out and in, out, in. She
moaned with the sublime feeling of her first oral sex.
A few
days later, we tried mutual oral sex, the "69" position. I had become
better at finding the head of her clit and each time my tongue crossed
it her tongue would quiver on the most sensitive underside of my
penis. This would let me know that I had found the "sweet spot" and in
turn I would speed up my flicking tongue which would cause her to
speed up and within a half minute we would have a mutual oral orgasm.
Sadly, about that same time we had been sucked into a
"Christian" faith which, like most Christian religions, attempted
control of its layity by dictating sexual behavior. (Ex: no sex
outside of marriage, no masturbating, no oral or anal sex, teaching
homosexuality is a sin, virtue of celibacy, etc...) In a routine
meeting with the clergy, we were admonished against oral sex! Without
a word said to each other, we simply never attempted it again.
I only saw her labia one more time. We had been on a long vacation
drive together which used to get her very sexually excited. When we
arrived home she suggested we take a bath together. She wanted to have
sex in the tub, but our tub was not a large one and bath water does
not make a good lubricant. Frustrated, she stood up stating we could
finish in bed. As she stepped over me in the tub, her legs spread and
there, in full view were the two morsels I had sucked on many years
earlier. Engorged from excitement and hot water, they hung down below
here vulva at least an inch, maybe an inch and a half. Even partially
concealed by her bush, there they were, my forbidden fruit. I don't
recall wanting anything so badly in my life as to simply grab her ass
and pull her wet pussy to my mouth. How I wanted to suck on my long
lost twins.
Years past and we unfortunatly grew apart until
we finally divorced. I have remarried and have a pretty good sex life
even though my new wife has very concealed inner lips and doesn't
particularly care for oral sex. One of my fantacies is to pretend I
have those long, lucious lips in my mouth, sucking and blowing,
sucking and blowing...
Moral to girls: your appeal comes from
how you view and express your own sexuality -- long lips just make it
that much easier to have fun.
Moral to guys: try everything
you girl is comfortable with. Push the envelope.
Moral to
all: Keep your religion and sex life totally separate. Enjoy.
Dear Smart-too-late,
Thanks for a very interesting story and I agree strongly with your conclusions. Your lesson to girls and guys is so true. I hope everyone reads it, especially young adults.
Your last lesson is just as important. Never ever let religion dictate your sex life. Any religion that interferes with your sex life is only out to control you.
Belief in god can be a beautiful thing. During the hard times it gives us something to hold on to when all else seems to be lost. During the good times it gives us a meaningful outlet for our gratitude. But when organized religion creates dogmas to control its believers then it becomes something very ugly.
An easy way to control people is by warping their sense of guilt, especially by making them feel guilty for enjoying that most pleasurable and intimate of all basic needs, sex. Just declare it a sin that will cause them to suffer in the afterlife. Then convince them you're the only one who can pardon them and you will have them eating out of your hand like trembling sheep.
Unfortunately, that's exactly what the Christian Church has been doing for centuries. I don't know a lot about other religions but I'm afraid they're not much better. The worst is that those who preach sexual restraint or abstinence in public are often the ones who behave the most bestial behind closed doors—even to the point of committing unspeakable sex crimes against our young children.
That's not to say that Christianity is bad in itself. In its basic form it teaches a lot of good morals and values. Just too bad it has been so often misused by predatory thugs and corrupt power trippers.
Again, thanks for sharing your story. We can all learn from it.
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