Held back because of labia.

closer

March 24, 2008

I'm nineteen, and still a virgin. I'm not religious. I'm not unattractive. I'm not overly self righteous. And I'm always getting involved in small flings with guys who are notorious for being good in bed. I feel like a compete freak for it, when all of my friends are sexually active. And when it's hardly seen as normal for someone to be over twenty and still a virgin.

What can I say? I'm a late bloomer sexually. It wasn't until I was seventeen that I began to even think about doing it.  

Around then, I began to explore the web to try to know my body better. This research was put to a terrible halt when I actually used the image search to see what a vagina looked like. I was suddenly distressed to see the ones my search came up with looked NOTHING like my own. Knowing that sexuality was so fundamental to human existence, it was the most awful, sinking feeling to realize that I was sexually abnormal. It felt like losing a loved one.

Through more searching I learned that I had extended labia, that it wasn't isolated to just me, but it was extremely rare (the site I found said that .8% of women had them. I know now this was a bullshit statistic). The first article I read was on "Something Awful" (to this day, when someone tells me how much they like that site I have to bite my tongue). Needless to say, they're article did nothing to help me through my existential crisis. I cried for a good half an hour before I could look into this more. When I did, I found sexylabia.com, and felt very comforted very fast. But there was very little content here back then.

Lately I've been attracting alot of male attention. Yet, even if I'm getting physical with someone I find attractive, I always have a tendency to put things to a halt when their hands hands wander towards my cooch, in fear that they'll be revolted by it or something. It's seriously been getting in the way of starting a relationship with anybody. I've never had a serious boyfriend before. The last "project" finally talked me into letting him put his hand "down there", after I explained my reservations. We were both drunk, so in retrospect it wasn't that comforting when he told me that I was perfectly normal. Not to mention, the night later he slept with some girl at a party.  

Still, it made me feel a little more confident about my labia. Just not enough to compel me to tell the next guy I moved on to. As of about a month, I've been half-dating this new guy. He's simply amazing, I've been told he's a good lover, and he oozes sexuality. He knows I'm a virgin, and is completely okay with that. Or at least I thought so.  

He worries about me not being ready for sex. When really, it's not the sex I'm afraid of, it's opening up that scares me. It's the chance that he'll reject me for my abnormal vagina that freaks the shit out of me.

So now I've come back and looked at this site, and am even more comforted seeing that there is more information and it has gained more popularity. I can't say that I have my own testimonial about a boyfriend loving my long lips. But it is a very big boost of confidence to get me on my way towards dealing with this virginity crap. And I'm sure it has been empowering to many others before me. Thank-you.

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Michael

April 17, 2008

The first sexual experience you have will be a big deal, and honestly if you are mostly concerned that your labia will freak him out---well, if that's your biggest concern, you have no inkling of the emotional tidal wave that is likely coming your way.  The guy who thinks you are not ready for sex? He may just be worried that you'll--horror upon horror!---really fall for him, because you just lost your virginity to him, and you'll want to be his girlfriend, long-term and outside the bedroom.

Really, most any guy in his teens or twenties will do it with most any girl, large labia or not, virgin or not, babe or not, doesn't matter. Guys really have it good these days--lots of easy sex that requires very little, if anything, from him (respect, caring, commitment, effort, etc).

Here's an idea--why don't you start a relationship outside of the bedroom first, then later, move to the sexual stage, instead of "semi-dating" someone, moving quickly to sex, and worrying what they will think.  If you get into a real relationship with a guy before sleeping with or fooling around with him, you will not have to worry what he thinks, because it will be clear that he really cares about you the person (and you are more than just your sex organs and your sexuality!), not just how soon he can get in your pants and what he might find there.

So what if you are a virgin at 19! Who gives a damn what anyone else might think. I repeat--who gives a damn what anyone else thinks! Don't lose it unless you really want to, in the best situation (patience!) you can find. Try to think with a long-term perspective on this.  You will never have a 2nd chance to rewrite this experience. I'll bet that many of your friends regret the circumstances of their first time--but they won't admit it (maybe not even to themselves just yet).

Michael, brother to 3 sisters, friend to many female friends

n2prettypink

April 17, 2008

You sweet thing! I promise you will excite the cum right out of the lucky person you choose to give your beautiful gift to.

I am a married female and would LOVE to have a protruding clit and dangling lips. They are SWEET! Celebrate what you have. I am always searching for new pictures of swollen, pretty dangling lips and they ARE hard to find because of their rarity.

Believe me, I would LOVE to have an exposed clit accompanied by large dangling labia. AND, as I am now, I would be partially shaven--so, show it off! Men AND women find it INCREDIBLY arousing!
PrettyPink

shellee

April 19, 2008

i support michael 150%  please take his advice i am 23 and will be married in a short while. i lost my virginity at 18 and i don't regret except that i shouldv'e given it more time. your pussy is beautiful, the problem with society these days is media and fame, we sit around and watch tv and see people with certain things or body parts and desire it the exact moment, learn to satisfy and be ambitious that is a secret that most people even if they here it they will never understand, trust me sweetheart the guy you chose to give your body to l will love and cherish you and your body,just be patient and persevering you will get the desire of your heart

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